Anyone ready to ring in the new year...and lose weight/get fit?

[oesdog]

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Thanks but that is the point - I haven;t actually come anywhere!!!!!! I lost 2 lbs that took me weeks to achieve and then I put it all back on!

If I write down everything I eat perhaps you guys can help me a bit because I am falling so far behind now and feel so well down about it really.

Today so far I have eaten
Drank a coffee at about 7 am
9 am - Another coffee and a thin slice of toast with Butter and a jam for breakfast.
11 am - Coffee and a plain digestive
1pm - Coffee, slice of thin toast with butter and an egg on top.

- Yeah I see NO water and too much coffee ??????

I just need this support or I feel I will just go stuff myself with Cheesey Chips!!!!!! NO NO NO!!!!!!!! I can;t think that way.

Oesdog - HELP HELP HELP - Keep me strong cause I am sooo disapointed with myself right now.

From a nutrition perspective:

1 you're not eating enough - even -I- eat more than this! The reason your body doesn't lose when you stop eating is because it freaks out and stores it thinking it won't get another meal. This can happen from not eating enough ONE time. 2. Too much carbos. Your fat and protein weren't until 1pm. And even your fat... you definitely need more fat in your diet. 3. Too much coffee - this will definitely cause you to retain water. It will also overwork your body (caffeine jitters) and cause your stomach to seize and not eat as well as stop your metabolism functioning properly.

I recommend (as a student, not a professional) to try only 1 or 2 coffees a day. Eat your egg earlier to start the protein before your body. Consider eating it with an avocado. Eat more often and eat more protein rich snacks - like nuts, seeds, legumes or have fruit. Digistives are a little worse for you than most people think, because they're so small plain and simple. It's not harming you any, really, you're not having more than one, but I'm just saying add perhaps to it something protein-y or larger, like fruit. It'll hlp keep your stomach working.

Try to eat more for breakfast and less for dinner. The huge thing was "Breakfast like a king, Lunch like a peasant, dinner like a pauper" is how humans are DESIGNED to eat (but even I don't hahahaha, and I'm supposed to know this stuff).... your body does it's very best breaking down in the morning and doesn't do well with a lot of food sitting on it at night - so you're more likely to gain with teeny breakfasts and a huge dinner than you are with a huge breakfast and a tiny dinner. It's REALLY hard to adopt this method of thinking though. I could never get it. But when I did try, I did feel heaps healthier.

Ok - now I have to add the rest of the days food intake!

3pm coffee
4 pm coffee and a cream bun DD brought for me - hate that

6pm - chicken pie and chips with tomato sauce. ( Not my choice but cooking for the family I end up having to go with the flow!!!)
NO dessert as I had a cream bun and - I remembered and drank a glass of water instead of another coffee.

OOPs another coffee at 7.30pm.
I will doubtless take another before my bed but nothing more to eat.

Usually I feel sick after Dinner. - I still have the cravings to throw it up - but I try not to.

Oesdog

You can tell me off now!!!

 

[Cloverleaf Farm]

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No telling off, I promise!

It REALLY sounds to me like you need to sit the family down and tell them what YOU need. If you put it to them that you are trying to get healthy (don't put yourself down or use the 3-letter F word) and you need their HELP. Tell them you can't do it without their support, and by their "support" you mean - no more cream buns, no more home baked bread, until you can get your willpower under control. If DD wants to buy you a special treat, she can find some exotic fruit or something in the produce section for you. They are sabotaging you, and they need to be TOLD what YOU NEED. My DH used to ask me to bring him home junk when I was dieting, and would lay on a guilt trip when I'd say no...he doesn't even ask anymore once I told him that I needed him to be supportive of my efforts to get healthy.

 

[elizabethbinary]

I mean this in the nicest possibly way but... you have a caffeine addiction. It's very obvious. It's also probably what's causing your water retention and perhaps even hindering your weight loss. I know, it sucks, I LOVE my coffee and I was addicted too and it's a b****.... but my body wasn't able to repair itself until I cut back.

Now young lady... you're gonna have to quit the coffee!

(you like how I patronize you there? oh yeah.... hahaha I don't mean it

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Also I still don't think you ate enough today.

(love you though!)

 

[Cloverleaf Farm]

I stayed exactly the same this week. BUT that's with bloating from PMS, so that's great for me!!

One thing I REALLY noticed this month was that my PMS symptoms were nearly nonexistent with last month being HORRENDOUS and lasting almost 2 weeks! Last month was also when I was pigging out and eating a ton of junk in anticipation of dieting! Coincidence? I don't think so!!

 

[oesdog]

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Honestly I couldn;t eat anymore - then I really would be sick!!! I am trying to NOT do that and thats important to me.
THe coffee yeap I know - its hard though cause every hour DH wants a cuppa - so I just get a coffee. ALso I am so darn tired all the time from Danny - I mean he has not slept again in over 24hrs. He can go over 36 hrs without sleep. I am a walking zombie most of the time. Sometimes I think I am insane. DH is very low tonight about danny and care needs and all of that. HE says he lets me down cause he gave us broken sons. - I am more worried about his health as he is recovering from heart surgery after his heart attack. Also we are having parkinsons tests on him cause he is losing ability to grip and stuff in his hands. On holiday we went out two days - we did walk a lot but most of the rest of the time we just lay in our room and read or slept. We are always tired.

I just know I need help to get past this bit - feeling generally very depressed right now and want to cry cause I have had DH , Ben and Danny to cope with today and then DD came with the baby and MArk to get their holiday arranged for JUly on the computer - I am taking Jessy so they can go away together. If I didn;t have DD to take Danny sometimes I would go mad. But I can;t put him in residential care either. I mean they just got caught putting paedaphiles in with adult learning disabled here so how can I trust them with my boy?????

Sorry I am just low right now.

Oesdog is tired needs her basket to go hide in

 

[elizabethbinary]

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Honestly I couldn;t eat anymore - then I really would be sick!!! I am trying to NOT do that and thats important to me.
THe coffee yeap I know - its hard though cause every hour DH wants a cuppa - so I just get a coffee. ALso I am so darn tired all the time from Danny - I mean he has not slept again in over 24hrs. He can go over 36 hrs without sleep. I am a walking zombie most of the time. Sometimes I think I am insane. DH is very low tonight about danny and care needs and all of that. HE says he lets me down cause he gave us broken sons. - I am more worried about his health as he is recovering from heart surgery after his heart attack. Also we are having parkinsons tests on him cause he is losing ability to grip and stuff in his hands. On holiday we went out two days - we did walk a lot but most of the rest of the time we just lay in our room and read or slept. We are always tired.

I just know I need help to get past this bit - feeling generally very depressed right now and want to cry cause I have had DH , Ben and Danny to cope with today and then DD came with the baby and MArk to get their holiday arranged for JUly on the computer - I am taking Jessy so they can go away together. If I didn;t have DD to take Danny sometimes I would go mad. But I can;t put him in residential care either. I mean they just got caught putting paedaphiles in with adult learning disabled here so how can I trust them with my boy?????

Sorry I am just low right now.

Oesdog is tired needs her basket to go hide in

Aww babe!!! I hope you don't think I was being hard on you!!! Okay don't eat more, but perhaps work what you eat into more protein-rich foods? I know it'll take some work but I think if you had the same calories perhaps in less carbohydrates (your diet is very unbalanced this way) it might quicken up your process. BUT! I don't think 'back to square one' is right either. Have you been measuring yourself? You really really should. I would BET MONEY you've lost inches if you haven't lost weight. Hell I'd put a fifty on that.

I'm sorry you're stressed and that FOR SURE isn't helping. That's WHY you're not eating much (that and caffeine is an appetite suppresent!)... poor thing.

g .... Is there any chance you can tell the husband to take the kids, you're going to a spa to get a massage and a steam bath?

 

[3goodeggs]

oh. Just read oedogs last post sorry.

You need a big hug.
We'll help you cope!

 

[oesdog]

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Thanks - am still here - its now 22.40 and Danny is still going strong. He never slept at all last night not even for an hour and the night before he got up about 3.30 and never went back to sleep. - I am tryinng to think 3.30 - 3.30 am this morning is what 24 hrs - 3.30 this afternoon is another 12 hrs which is 36 hrs and its now say 22.30 to make it easier - 6 more hours thats 42 hours so far and he is still awake and is now singing - oh yes he was given 4 Menitonin which is supposed to make him sleep about 9.30 10pm ish. - I don;t think he is going to sleep tonight either. MAybe he will drop off in the early hours????

I am just exhausted right now.

Oesdog

 

[Cloverleaf Farm]

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Thanks - am still here - its now 22.40 and Danny is still going strong. He never slept at all last night not even for an hour and the night before he got up about 3.30 and never went back to sleep. - I am tryinng to think 3.30 - 3.30 am this morning is what 24 hrs - 3.30 this afternoon is another 12 hrs which is 36 hrs and its now say 22.30 to make it easier - 6 more hours thats 42 hours so far and he is still awake and is now singing - oh yes he was given 4 Menitonin which is supposed to make him sleep about 9.30 10pm ish. - I don;t think he is going to sleep tonight either. MAybe he will drop off in the early hours????

I am just exhausted right now.

Oesdog

Have you looked into respite care? We have it here in the states, where a caregiver comes in to the home however often you need it, to give the regular caretakers/family a break, sometimes for just a few hours, sometimes for the whole day. Sounds like it might be worth looking into.

 

[oesdog]

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Thanks - am still here - its now 22.40 and Danny is still going strong. He never slept at all last night not even for an hour and the night before he got up about 3.30 and never went back to sleep. - I am tryinng to think 3.30 - 3.30 am this morning is what 24 hrs - 3.30 this afternoon is another 12 hrs which is 36 hrs and its now say 22.30 to make it easier - 6 more hours thats 42 hours so far and he is still awake and is now singing - oh yes he was given 4 Menitonin which is supposed to make him sleep about 9.30 10pm ish. - I don;t think he is going to sleep tonight either. MAybe he will drop off in the early hours????

I am just exhausted right now.

Oesdog

Have you looked into respite care? We have it here in the states, where a caregiver comes in to the home however often you need it, to give the regular caretakers/family a break, sometimes for just a few hours, sometimes for the whole day. Sounds like it might be worth looking into.

- we didn;t get any help here for 13 years now we have direct payment care which basically means we have to sort it ourselves and we pay DD to stay here now while were away which isn;t really the best thing - but its why we got to go away at all!!!! Certainly I wouldn;t want a stranger in this house while I was away and Danny cannot go into a care unit because he is volatile at times and a lot of places wont have him at all unless hes in lock up and I don;t want that for him!!! There are no placements for him here in restbite units. That is why we have to organise care ourselves!!!!!! We also have to do that with Ben too and he has a great girl which really helps us loads right now!!! - it just makes extra stress though as we become employers then with all that to do as well! ITs not really a good way of getting restbite. Anyhow after finding out they put Peadaphiles on the restpite ward at the hospital here would you trust Social services whith your kid!!!!

Oesdog