Appropriate Punishment?

[redhen]

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LOL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I love it! Not sure if I can actually do that but man... that would wake everyone up

sure you can do it...no laws aganist squirting cold water on a lazy kid... doooo it!

 

[Dar]

I had to null my vote..... My DS tried this and .. lets just say that I think outside the box..... and he was not often late for the bus after that... and to this day (3 years later) he will look back at it and laugh because it was a lesson he remembered... he hated me for a while though


ok ok ok... i drove him to school and sat in every class with him... and in one class, (his music class) I pulled out a tissue and helped him blow his nose in front of everyone. Treated him like a baby.. if he was not responsible enough to get up for school all by himself then mommy felt it was necessary to make sure he got to all his classes... and I held his hand as we were walking through the halls too. Man was he mad... but it got my point across. and the only time he was late for the bus after that was if he was not feeling well like a head cold, but he still went to school... or if we were at a family event late the night before... and now that he is 18 and lives on his own... he holds a great job and makes sure he leaves enough time for the "what if" to happen... he will read his book while he waits to start work or while waiting for the bus.

 

[Buff Hooligans]

How ironic that this thread is active on the same day you are inquiring as the the health & gender of your next child.

Think next time you might choose to order more chicks instead? Hm....?

 

[CityGirlintheCountry]

DAR- That is BRILLIANT!!!!

I disagree that it is your responsibility to get them up and out the door. They are 14 and 15? They are totally old enough to get themselves up and ready. What will they do in a few short years when they are out on their own?

This is a sore point with me as I teach college kids and I get the "I overslept" excuse constantly. What do they think will happen when they have a job? That excuse will not fly and they will be out on their heinie!

I vote you go with Dar's method. Or, since you are not able to do your work because you have to drive them to school, they must do all your chores and theirs for the day. Or you boot them out the door at bus time no matter what state their hair, dress and makeup are in. If they go to school with no makeup on it won't kill them. It might embarrass them though. Bet you won't have to do it more than once.

Good luck.

 

[Kacey's Krazee's]

I heard from a wise wife how she would get her family up for the day. ( she used this on her 6'5 hubby several times!) she kept marbles in her freezer. She would
take them out, and pull back the covers and roll them under them. They will roll to the lowest point, being where the body is laying, and no matter how much they move
to avoid those frozen marbles, the marbles move with them too. The was no question that they were then awake! I never had a chance to use this. Both of my boys, now men, would get themselves up and off to school without any problems. They are both very responsible as adults too.

 

[Ridgerunner]

My wife had trouble getting our 7 year old dressed and out the door to catch the bus. We lived in the city then and the bus came right by the front door. When it came time to go out to wait for the bus, she tossed his clothes out the front door. He was them tossed out the front door. (He did have his Scooby Doo's on. Or was it Spiderman?) He could not believe she would do that. He was so unbelieving that he was late the next morning. Ater that, he believed she would really do that. After that, no problems getting ready on time. They will test you occasionally but if you prove consistent......

I don't think this applies to Boyd's situation. Sounds like the bus does not come right by his front door.

 

[Wifezilla]

That was my next step if the super soaker wouldn't work!

I told son I was going to do it too!

 

[Andi]

I didn't read through all the posts, but here's what I suggest. Discussion. Punishment will only get her angry with you. It doesn't get her thinking. Having to spend the time talking about something she knows she messed up on should be punishment enough.

Find out what it was behind her over sleeping. Discuss (not preach) about how her actions impact others. Have her do the thinking and you guide her thoughts. Help her to learn how to think ahead.

She probably already knows she's good at screwing up. Don't make that a concrete thought. You don't want her to start thinking that screwing up is what people are going to expect (and then get ticked about) of her.

Help her learn problem solving. Take the window as an example. She was cold and wanted to warm up. That makes sense, so she did what she needed to warm up. She still needs to learn how to think of why things are the way they are. If she comes to you with a problem, don't fix it for her. Help her figure it out. Don't baby her too much. She might not like it, but it'll make her a better person in the long run.

I had a problem with my boys missing the bus when they were younger, too. I made them find their own ride to school. They had to call around (and feel embarrassed) for someone to bring them in. I provided gas money for who ever brought them in. All of their friends were already in school, so they couldn't call them. It was only "old people" home that could help. We live 16 miles from the school, so it was no short ride with "old people" either. It worked for me.

Best of luck!

 

[sbarab]

Borrow your worst Uncle Buck car and drive them to school for a week.

It is guaranteed they will not want to miss the bus again.

 

[Hillbilly Hen]

My boys were given one free ride. If they were late after that they got to stay at home, no electronics or such. Just cleaning all day. I mean the washing down the kitchen cabinets and oiling them, mopping floors, all the heavy duty type of cleaning that I have a hard time doing. If the weather was permitting then they had to dig stumps.