Appropriate Punishment?

[Ridgerunner]

Different things motivate different kids. With one of ours, cleaning the bathroom was effective. With another, take away the electronics. You know her. What motivates her.

I vote against the call to the boys about the cold sores. You can't back that up so you lose credibility, but mainly because it is not repeatable. You use it once and what do you do if she's late again? Would picking them up in the van and embarrassing them be all that unusual or just another day in their lives? I hope you occasionally do something like that just to keep them on their toes.

I would not change my routine and start getting up early. They should learn to take responsibility forthemselves without your going to a lot of additional inconvenience. Of course, falling asleep at the dinner table because you are worn out from having to get up early after working late because they cannot be trusted to get ready on time may be something in your arsenal. As I said, you know your girls. But your getting up early should not be her consequence, maybe a little additional motivation. Her motivation should effect her, not you.

I'm not voting for any of the above. I'm voting against a few.

 

[Boyd]

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lol The front porch and down was to be silly including the calling guy friends

I meant this to be a silly rant/poll

 

[Shannon's Chix]

I usually try to make punishements fit the crime if possible. Since you live so far from school, if she's old enough I would drive her but drop her off about a mile before school...the tardy is her problem...for leaving the window open a good amount of VERY heavy cleaning to help "pay" for the electricity lost...

good luck with that!

 

[babylady4]

I usually have mine go to bed with the 7 yr old..... ticks her off!!!! Removal of cell phone if behavior continues and removal of TV, Computer etc..... down the line. Unfortunately I do not have some really dirty menial chore for her to do except clean litter boxes but that is a weekly thing anyway so I would not make that a punishment.

Good luck with this, I can't imagine being late for school like that; I would have been made to walk to school (and it was 4 miles).

 

[Boyd]

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School is on the other end of the next town north of me

Walking wouldn't work out, may take her 3 hours or better

 

[Ridgerunner]

Yeah, I doubt you really need any help raising those girls. I usually take your posts about them with a couple of grains of salt. (It's too early for Jack Daniels) I meant to have a bit of tongue in cheek on my comment about embarrassing them to keep them on their toes.

You obviously like to stir things up and you sometimes come up with some really good topics. Sometimes you even offer teaching moments. I know very well it takes work and inconvnience to raise kids to be responsible. But my message was meant to be that unless the kid's inappropriate action inconveniences them more than it does you, the kid is raising you, not the other way around. Some people do take these posts seriously. I can think of a few parents that I wish would take parenting seriously.

 

[Boyd]

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I agree with your comment about parents taking parenting seriously!!! I just need to be silly at times. having one of those

mornings!!! I was walking around smacking my forehead going DUH... how could they... and after I did that about 10 times and realized I was wearing holes in the carpet because I hadn't had my coffee yet... So I can relate

Those girls sometimes tho....

 

[farmerlor]

We had a similar issue with our son for awhile. We told him that school was his responsibility and that we would love him no matter how many times he had to repeat the seventh grade. I also told him that if he was tardy often enough to get kicked out of school I'd be glad to homeschool him. And that pretty much did it for him.
I agree your daughter needs to work off the extra electricity she used.

 

[Chicksdigit]

You could just get them up thirty minutes earlier every morning and soon they would get the message and a couple of big screws in the window casing will seal them shut I know it is a passive way to get a point across but it shows them you are aware of what is going on and that ultimately you are going to stop this behavior.

 

[Countrywife]

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School is on the other end of the next town north of me

Walking wouldn't work out, may take her 3 hours or better

THAT my dear man, is what MAKES it work. We live 20 miles from the school. Both my teenagers have alarm clocks. I am usually up in the morning, but they get themselves up, fed, dressed and out the door. Boy child goes to the field and checks on livestock before school too. They have only once missed the bus, and at 8th and 10th grade I gave them a pass. They do however know that if missing the bus becomes a problem they WILL walk it. I will follow behind in my car for safety, but they are gonna walk.

Window thing? I would go check her room for smokes. I smoked for 30 years, started at 13- you need to find out now, and hit it HARD!