Appropriate Punishment?

[redhen]

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Who said pajamas? Drawers. Only his drawers!

Ha! Even better!

 

[redhen]

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yeah..thats hard when they are mostly so good...
um... you'll have to get creative then...
what does she really enjoy? Take it away from her..plus an EARLY bed time.??

 

[silkydragon]

no punishment unless she doing it on purpose my bus driver quit and my bus was going through busdrivers (3 in 1 yr) and 1 of them saide that we had to be at bus stop 10minutes before the bus stopped but winters in ohio get pretty cold so i would stand in my doorway and waite till i seen him coming which from my door to bus stop is only like 30 yrds so i would see him coming and be out there before he got to the stop and he would just keep going i missed the bus so many times and my mom had to work so she called the garage and they said they would talk to him ended up getting fired cuz he passed up many stops as kids on the bus where shouting there the kid is and he just told us to shut up they werent out there 10minutes early sometimes he would even come early as if just to make kids miss the bus

 

[Mac in Wisco]

We live at the far end of a rural school district, the school is 25 miles away and the round trip time is over an hour. My 16 year old son missed the bus a few weeks ago and came out to the barn where I was working to ask for a ride to school. I made him do all the farm chores that I normally do in the morning and then took him to school a few hours late. Since I normally pay him an hourly wage he tried to write that time down on his time sheet. I told him he wasn't getting paid for that time, that he was only making up for the time I had to take out of my day to get him to school. He also had to listen to me talk about personal responsibility for the 30 minute drive, that's enough of a deterrent in itself...

 

[MagsC]

I am fairly lenient for a BIT on things and she would be warned before the hammer came down. Then its total. I generally dont have too many problems once she has had a warning because she knows I wont keep talking, just do.

 

[Southernbelle]

My kids (elementary age) only missed the bus once in their whole school career and I spent the entire 10 minute drive to school lecturing them. I hate driving them to school. I usually ride them pretty hard in the morning to get them ready on time, but mine are younger.

Here's a few ideas:

-Toss them out the door in whatever state of ready they are in - teeth not brushed? too bad; make-up on only 1/2 her face? too bad; no breakfast? too bad; can't find your shoes? guess you'll have to wear your house slippers

-Take them in late for an unexcused absence - too many of those will earn them punishments from the school

-Micromanage them - hopefully they'll get so sick of your interference they'll start managing themselves. Make them a checklist and nag them about having everything ready before bed the night before.

When I was growing up, we lived about 5 or 6 miles from the school. My sister and I never missed the bus, my brother missed it 90% of the time. My mother got so sick of driving him in that she started making him walk to school.

 

[sfw2]

When DS was in high school, he went through a phase where he missed the bus about three times in a month. I got tired of driving him to school, then coming home, getting ready for work, and going back out. One day, I told him I wasn't driving him - he could walk (about three miles). I felt so proud of myself. When I got home from work that day, I asked him how his walk was. Turns out he hitched a ride from some total stranger in our neighborhood, and beat the bus to school.

 

[jeaucamom]

Ahhh the joys of homeschooling.... but when the kids were in school, my oldest would miss the bus far too often because she didn't want to take the bus.. cant say as I blame her, they were so overcrowded, they had to sit three to a row for almost an hour. But the school was 25 minutes away and I was in the middle of cancer treatments and dealing with an abusive husband. I needed her to be more responsible. She was young enough at the time that she didn't have anything for me to take away. We lived out in the country so grounding was no different than any other day. I was so sick at the time that I didn't really address the issue properly, or several others for that matter and now she is out of the house and wild and out of control. My only advice is stick to your guns, set some limits and follow through. Good luck.

 

[new2chix]

My kids are 26, 25, 24, and 17. We only live about 1 mile from the school, so if mine missed, they walked and received an unexcused tardy. In your situation I like the idea of them doing the work that I would normally be doing during the round trip to take them - but I would make them do it EARLY SATURDAY MORNING. If it were chores that were only once a week things, I would substitute a chore (preferably a stinky, dirty, unpleasant one that I did not want to do myself) that would take me an equal amount of time to do. Also stipulate that it must be done to your standards - teenagers are great at finding loop holes!

 

[mom'sfolly]

I believe in consequences fitting the "crime", so

early to bed, and earlier up,
no phone, no computer, no TV before school
drive or pick them up for school, use the time for any discussion they will find horrible.


My friend's son had an issue that got his car keys taken away. He deliberately missed the bus, saying he didn't know which one to take. My friend told him she would be happy to pick him up every day, it would give her 30 minutes of uninterupted time to talk to him. He never missed the bus again.