Quote:
I wouldn't be amazed at all. I've had people walk up to me in a store and ask if the kids were adopted (it's rather obvious when we're together) and then go on and on about how lucky the kids are to have been adopted and how awful it was that their REAL mothers wouldn't take care of them and they do this IN FRONT OF MY CHILDREN. There's nothing lucky about the situation that allowed my children to be adopted and WE'RE the lucky ones to have found them. I know that since my children were in the foster care system the birth mothers weren't always voluntarily relinquishing their children but I still hope that they've found some peace and I hope that they know how very loved their children are.
It is amazing the things that people will say. My youngest DD had a substitute teacher that realized her older sister is her sister (older 2 DD's are white, youngest is biracial) and looked at her and said "Well you must be adopted then" and prceeded to pepper her with questions about her "adoptive" family. Little did he know both girls are adopted. He also had no way of knowing if she was aware she was adopted when he did this. He had never seen either me or my husband. She could have been from a blended family for all he knew. I was so angry! I did get an apology from the principal, but never the teacher.
Our youngest was given up voluntarily, oldest two were taken away from a very bad situation. I have a couple of friends who have given up children for adoption. I have all the admiration in the world for women who choose to find their children a loving home knowing they cannot give that child what they need at that time in their life. If bio mom of my older two had done that, they would have been better off for it.
Despite all that we have been through with the girls when they were younger, despite all that we will go through as they enter their preteen and teen years (may the good Lord help me with three teen girls at the same time!), we are the ones who have been blessed to have them in our family. We are just as lucky to have them as they are to have us.
I wouldn't be amazed at all. I've had people walk up to me in a store and ask if the kids were adopted (it's rather obvious when we're together) and then go on and on about how lucky the kids are to have been adopted and how awful it was that their REAL mothers wouldn't take care of them and they do this IN FRONT OF MY CHILDREN. There's nothing lucky about the situation that allowed my children to be adopted and WE'RE the lucky ones to have found them. I know that since my children were in the foster care system the birth mothers weren't always voluntarily relinquishing their children but I still hope that they've found some peace and I hope that they know how very loved their children are.
It is amazing the things that people will say. My youngest DD had a substitute teacher that realized her older sister is her sister (older 2 DD's are white, youngest is biracial) and looked at her and said "Well you must be adopted then" and prceeded to pepper her with questions about her "adoptive" family. Little did he know both girls are adopted. He also had no way of knowing if she was aware she was adopted when he did this. He had never seen either me or my husband. She could have been from a blended family for all he knew. I was so angry! I did get an apology from the principal, but never the teacher.
Our youngest was given up voluntarily, oldest two were taken away from a very bad situation. I have a couple of friends who have given up children for adoption. I have all the admiration in the world for women who choose to find their children a loving home knowing they cannot give that child what they need at that time in their life. If bio mom of my older two had done that, they would have been better off for it.
Despite all that we have been through with the girls when they were younger, despite all that we will go through as they enter their preteen and teen years (may the good Lord help me with three teen girls at the same time!), we are the ones who have been blessed to have them in our family. We are just as lucky to have them as they are to have us.
