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The word spectrum started being used because there are different levels (spectrums) of Autism and Aspergers. Most Aspergers people can function with society, but there are certain spectrums of that disorder that sets them apart. Austistic people settle inside themselves and it takes intense work to get them "out". Aspergers people are usually quite vocal, often show violent tendancies, and are OCD. Some to an extreme. My boss's son is Aspergers at the extreme end of things, and has been obsessed with the fact that he is part native American. He absolutely MUST attend every pow-wow that he can possibly get to or it leads to a major melt down. None of his own control either. He also has higher end violent tendancies. Besides that, he is a very likeable young man, and handsome to boot.
Not sure what my comments have to do with the title of this thread, but my two cents nonetheless.
Thank you! There are so many differeing levels of Autism that it is really no two people that are exactly alike on the spectrum. My oldest ds is on the high functioning but extreme side like Deb's boss's son. He can tell you everything you ever wanted to know (or not know, ever
) about all things trains, emergency equipment, piano, organ, Ham Radio and jazz and blues. He just added another instument to it lately, and I know now more about ocarina's than I ever wanted to, including the fact "That they are a Aztec instrument and while it's cool that it's a major component of the Zelda video games, it's much older than that. " (All said in a very matter of fact tone, lol. )
He's made incredible progress with the therapist we have here.
He was so locked inside of himself that he didn't understand the concept of a joke until he was 9.
Now, he understands the humor concept, much to our chagrin. He knows every groaner in the book.
He's not perfect, but he's cool in his own way. We're all still working with his meltdowns, (boy, do I know what you mean there, Debi!) on things that he is interested in and if it turns out that he can't attend a Ham Radiofest, train event, etc, it is not pretty!
After the blow up, DH and I talk to him and reinforce the training he's had from his therapist. Sometimes, it's ok, sometimes, he just needs to get into himself and process everything, then come back and try to talk about it.
Most people think that he's a cool kid, (oops, sorry, he's 18 now
) but they don't understand why he talks "at " them, rather than "with" them like NT's do in a regular conversation. And with the meltdowns do come the violent tendancies but not toward others or animals, he just can't get it together when told, "No, sorry, you can't go to such and such event. We already have plans." We just tell him to go to his room and to calm down. Lots of times, it involves him trying to argue back, then when that works, getting angry,then slamming doors, yelling and then just disconnecting from his anger as fast as it showed up after being told, "No, you aren't getting to go." After he gets back to himself, we talk about what happened, why his response wasn't appropriate, and what to do the next time something doesn't happen the way he wants it to go. It's a lot of 3 steps foward, 2 steps back a LOT of the time, but as the years go on, I know that he's never going to be NT, but he will find his place in society.
He has an absolutely brilliant mind!
It's just getting that brillant mind to slow down and focus on things he needs to have for life experience and to function daily that we're trying to put into his mind and attention at this time as a young adult. It's hard, but he's getting there.
The word spectrum started being used because there are different levels (spectrums) of Autism and Aspergers. Most Aspergers people can function with society, but there are certain spectrums of that disorder that sets them apart. Austistic people settle inside themselves and it takes intense work to get them "out". Aspergers people are usually quite vocal, often show violent tendancies, and are OCD. Some to an extreme. My boss's son is Aspergers at the extreme end of things, and has been obsessed with the fact that he is part native American. He absolutely MUST attend every pow-wow that he can possibly get to or it leads to a major melt down. None of his own control either. He also has higher end violent tendancies. Besides that, he is a very likeable young man, and handsome to boot.
Not sure what my comments have to do with the title of this thread, but my two cents nonetheless.
Thank you! There are so many differeing levels of Autism that it is really no two people that are exactly alike on the spectrum. My oldest ds is on the high functioning but extreme side like Deb's boss's son. He can tell you everything you ever wanted to know (or not know, ever

He's made incredible progress with the therapist we have here.


Now, he understands the humor concept, much to our chagrin. He knows every groaner in the book.

He's not perfect, but he's cool in his own way. We're all still working with his meltdowns, (boy, do I know what you mean there, Debi!) on things that he is interested in and if it turns out that he can't attend a Ham Radiofest, train event, etc, it is not pretty!

Most people think that he's a cool kid, (oops, sorry, he's 18 now

He has an absolutely brilliant mind!


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