Bad Example For Kids

[kelseygirl707]

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We were at Costco today and Ken had something in his hand and asked me "Can I get this?" I just looked at him and put it in the cart. He said "Thank you Mommy."

Bill always asks too, but only because I am in charge of the budget, and the only time I really tell him no, is if we actually don't have money in the budget. And we have a rule, that if it costs more than $40, we discuss it first. And I am guilty of saying quite a few times "Don't tell hubby, he'll be mad" but always jokingly, as he is my biggest enabler! We both have our hobbies. And frankly I think kids are way to sheltered these days. Both my mom and I have noticed (She works at the elementry school that I went to) that kids can't work out confrentation, they tattle about everything now-a-days compared to 20 years ago. Way too many parents put their kids in bubbles, You may look at me as a bad parent, but kids are supposed to get hurt, and learn from mistakes. All the fun play equipment was taken out of the playgrounds about 15 years ago because it was too dangerous. I miss the days of Metal slides that burned your butt on hot summer days

 

[EweSheep]

Yep hubby always ask if a thing cost more than $50 and he would discuss it with me. So far, we have been very agreeable on alot of things. One thing he did say, no chicks in the basement but does not stop me from having them elsewhere outside. It is a mutual understanding why we want it, our reasons and be open about it. Sure I've bought things without him knowing it but he saw a purpose that I need that I do not have to have his permission to have it. If he gets upset about it, I would let him stew on it a bit and he will come around. No one stays mad around in this house for long.

 

[eenie114]

Exactly.... Nobody will take it seriously. It's not like the husband or wife won't notice suspicious cheeping.
''Honey, what's that? I hear cheeping.''
''Nothing.''
''Okay.''
Not likely.

 

[redhen]

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Well..we agree for once... 100% agree with you.
WHY in gods name are you afraid to tell your husband you bought eggs or chicks?? Really, is it so bad? What ARE you afraid of? .... i worry when i read some of those posts... Not about the adults... but the kids seeing that mess, and thinking its a normal way to live..

 

[justbugged]

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eenie is so smart. I know that I can joke with her and she understands. I have only been married for 28 years, but I have learned some things along the way. It is easier to ask for forgiveness than it is too ask for permission. It seems to work very well. That last dog I brought home on a rescue has become DH's favorite.

 

[justbugged]

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[MeatKing]

you mean, I can't slip 10 new birds in without hubby noticing... I really wanted to try that!!

 

[schellie69]

I talked to my husband about this post last night. He buys things for his hobby like books are models he likes steam trains. I don't know what he wants or needs so I tell him to get what he wants it works out to be his birthday gift, Christmas gift or something like that. He also paid the shipping on a rooster that I wanted from another byc member he spent $50 to ship a rooster why because it makes me happy I love my rooster. I think that most of the post of don't tell my wife/husband are good marriages that have a sense of humor. When ever I say don't tell your dad the 1st thing they do is meet dad at door to tell him exactly what I said not to. He laughs and I just smile. Our children can't keep a secret to save their butts. Our marriage is great we communicate all the time I think this is what makes a great marriage.

 

[Mom 2em All]

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I read this thread to my husband. He said the one who started the post must be the one with the marital problems.

He and I each do our thing, and share with each other- and all of our "secrets" are just silly things that each other knows about anyhow- or finds out about.
Is he going to divorce me because I have an extra dozen chicken eggs in the brooder? Heck no, our positives outweigh our negatives by a huge amount.

 

[paddock36]

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I read this thread to my husband. He said the one who started the post must be the one with the marital problems.

He and I each do our thing, and share with each other- and all of our "secrets" are just silly things that each other knows about anyhow- or finds out about.
Is he going to divorce me because I have an extra dozen chicken eggs in the brooder? Heck no, our positives outweigh our negatives by a huge amount.

I agree with you. My husband and I have been married for almost 18 years (

I had to think about it for a sec) . I think the last real secret I kept from him was a shotgun I bought him for Christmas.