If you continue to treat Bird like your husband, he will continue thinking you are his hen.  DH definately doesn't deserve the treatment you are giving him either, sounds like both of you have anger issues.  Start treating your hubby like your #1 man and not the rooster, I guarantee he will start treating you and your flock better.  Gotta give respect to get it, but sounds like you both have too much pride.  A man, just like a rooster, is not happy unless he contols and rules the roost and his family respects him, and he needs you to support that(just like a hen, LOL).  
No offense, but if my wife didn't talk to me for kicking a rooster, we'd be done.  Luckily she's smart enough to know our relationship is more important than a relationship with LIVESTOCK. 
If Bird is more important to you than DH, let DH go find someone who loves him more than a $2.00 chicken.