Boy likes Me, I like boy, and so does his girlfriend and the rest of the women pop. what to do?

[mandelyn]

Not worth it, he's not looking for a serious girlfriend, obviously, so I wouldn't touch that drama with a 10 foot pole. Be his friend and watch him crash and burn with a batch of angry girls talking about him. Specially if his current girlfriend is part of the social circle.

 

[Spookwriter]

Walk away.

And if you can walk away, know that this isn't the one.

"Bobs" are a dime-a-dozen.

 

[the Precious Ladies]

Thanks guys, im thinking just to keep him as a friend

 

[sfw2]

Thanks guys, im thinking just to keep him as a friend

Good decision. Even if it does get to the point that he and his girlfriend really are broken up, I'd give him a wide berth.

I'm waaaayyyyyyyyy past this sort of drama, but have a daughter who is a sophomore in college. I watched her group of friends fracture when one friend started dating another's ex-boyfriend. They had all been close since grade school, and now they rarely speak to each other. If it starts to look like he might have stopped his player ways, and he expresses an interest in you, I'd still run it past the ex-girlfriend before I'd consider going out with him.

 

[mom'sfolly]

Bob is a jerk. He is playing games with you, his girlfriend and the other girl he confided in. If you are in a relationship you don't engage in prolonged flirtation with physical contact. If you are a teen and in a relationship, hiding it from parents is a bad idea.

This guy wants to have his cake, his pie and tiramisu. Guys who are on the up and up are not planning for the next girlfriend, they are focusing on the one they are with. This guy kind of reminds me of a co-workers ex-husband, who during an intimate moment said "when we're divorced, I think I will still do this with you." This was one of signs telling just what kind of man she had married.

 

[eenie114]

The post was a little confusing to me, but if you're choosing between a boy and your friends, ALWAYS PICK YOUR FRIENDS. Unless this guy is absolutely AMAZING, which Bob is not. At all. He's 999,999 in a million. Hold out for the one.

 

[frostbite]

If he'll lie to someone else, he'll lie to you. If he scouts out girls to be in the wings, he'll scout while he's with you too.

What do you think dating is? If it's just playing around doing what feels good at the time, then do whatever you want, but that's a dangerous game with potentially life changing consequences.

If dating is evaluating men for the characteristics you want in a lifelong committed relationship, then wait a few years. The boys your age are often like Bob the Fickle, charming but immature, and opportunistic. When they get older, some of them grow up, and by then you'll be wiser too, about what characteristics you want in a MAN, (not a boy)

Respect for you, respect for others, dependable, hard working, good sense of humor, moral, reasonably sanitary, has a job/career, kind, not judgemental, not demanding or manipulative....

Take some time to think about the characteristics YOU want. And do not ever date a guy a second time if there are things about him you think you could change. You can't change anyone, so don't settle for someone who doesn't meet the criteria. You have lots of time, believe it or not, so spend a lot of your energies working on your skills and your career possiblities, so that someday when you do hook up with the right guy, you'll do so because you're a match, and not because you're feeling desperate for someone to take care of you.

Sorry, too much advice from someone you don't know. But there it is. Good luck to you!

(Do you ever wonder if your friend's parents who said "no" know something you girls don't?)

 

[sourland]

Thanks guys, im thinking just to keep him as a friend

Great decision. Bob with his 'back up plan' and readiness to dump his present girlfriend would do the same thing to you given the opportunity/temptation.

 

[chickenreferee]

Thanks guys, im thinking just to keep him as a friend

Good idea. I mean if you're his current 'back up plan', don't think for a second he won't have another when he's dating you. This dude's got player written all over him. There's plenty of time for guys, no need to get involved in his flavor of drama....besides the fact he obviously doesn't have much respect for his or her parents by continuing a relationship behind their back. Not saying parents are always right, but that kind of crap is just begging for heartache.

 

[Gomes Bantams]

Bob is the man

How dare YOU! You say hes the man while hes playing his GF, i think thats wrong. If she(my precious ladies) was my friend and i found out about this, i would slug the guy in the chops, and i would hope i broke his jaw. I apologize for my ranting but he needs to learn a lesson. And YES IM A FELLOW MALE.