Thank you sooo much for that link! I read the whole first chapter, and I may even go out and buy the book. It just makes sooo much sense and the advice came JUST IN TIME for me. I've been chasing after a friend I have and haven't really gotten any response from him. I always kind of knew he wasn't giving the signals I wanted, but it took the words of someone else for me to just realize it is a waste of my time.
I'm going to go read more! (And right now, I feel a WHOLE lot better.)
:| Sometimes guys get afraid when they start getting close to a lady usually due to a bad previous relationship and don't want to go through it again. Just hang in there, there are a lot of fishes out there in the sea and there's just one picked out just for you! Hang in there.
There's no excuse for not telling someone that you're not interested. You don't have to explain. I think if the two of you have been kissing then you deserve that much at least.
Being a male is no excuse for being that thoughtless. Or gutless.
You're well rid of him. If he ever does call you again, HANG UP.
I am a male and I have only one thing to say, inconsiderate people never change, you are better off without him. Find a nice mean old SOB like me and settle down.
(didn't really mean me of course, I am deathly afraid of women).
It's sensible stuff, you just have to open your mind enough to realized that what he's saying is right, even though it may hurt to see it.
I'm glad it helped ya, chick!
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No offense, but I don't think the OP asked to be preached to. Do you know if or if she isn't a Christian? Perhaps this would best be saved for a private message. That way, you could give religious advice if she was a member of your religion.
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Well, you just did.
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I'm wondering if these are experiences you are going through yourself, Leslie. If you would like some sympathy or prayer, you're certainly welcome to make a post about it so that members here can console you. That doesn't mean that you should minimize others' problems or issues. You're really coming across as heartless and bitter.
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Maybe it's not a problem that the world is going to stop for, but we here at BYC support one another and try to help each other as best we can with whatever problems we have, big or small. We're kind of like a little online family at times. You're welcome to be a part of that family as much as anyone else here...but to belong requires some sympathy, empathy, and loving-kindness, some things your response to the OP distinctly lacks.
You're pretty new (at least by post count, I don't know how much you lurk), so I'll take your post with a grain of salt in that you didn't really know how the majority of us operate here.