BYC Café

[Bunnylady]

I'm going to have to do it aren't I. Despite my rebellious nature and my dislike of censorship I would go to bed feeling a bit churlish if I didn't congratulate what will probably be the best moderators BYC will ever know.
I'm not going to join in the Nifty wow peeps thread. What I will write is "thanks @007Sean and @N F C for taking the staff jobs."

I've been having a problem trying to figure out just what it is I want to say - "congratulations" doesn't really cover it. It's a tough job; riding herd on such a cosmopolitan collection of characters has driven some people to distraction and/or exhaustion. On this forum and others, I have read posts from mods who wound up declaring that they simply couldn't find the time and energy any more, and they had to quit; to me, it's a bit like congratulating someone for volunteering to run with the bulls. It is certainly a mark of the esteem with which you are regarded, so in that respect, I guess congratulations are in order. But my true sentiments are more along the lines of gratitude, for a willingness to try to police this crazy place!

Thank you, @N F C and @007Sean; may the roads be smooth, your strides long, and the bulls' horns short.

 

[pennyJo1960]

Thanks Shad need that coffee boost every morning made the banana nut bran muffins I do have the new dr appointment today at 2 :30 not quite 1/2 hour drive 20 miles away 60 mile an hour road but anyone for fresh hot muffin

 

[pennyJo1960]

Mods have a special task been there done than not here but like wading and sitting with my coffee at this time in life they will do wonderful fair jobs I have never claimed to be PC they may have their jobs in other areas also not just 2 or 3 threads

 

[drumstick diva]

Does anyone know how Sumi is doing? I guess it takes 2 moderators to take her place.

Also wonder about Misty Real. I remember her saying she had a lot of bills.

And wish we could get Scott Caddy back. How could he ever leave? He was quite an accomplished coffee drinker.

 

[pennyJo1960]

think she may be getting a bit better she posted on the moderator thread today

 

[Shadrach]

Sooo, I've got domestic problems.
I haven't written much about my living circumstances here apart from that that directly relates to me. The couple I work for have mental health problems. They bought this place with inherited money and decided like many I read about on these forums, to retreat to the country and have a go at being small holders. The whole smallholding thing was and still is a complete fantasy. There is and has been no method and no attempt to rationalize costs, or keep the land productive. The reality of living the good life just wasn't a match for their skill or commitment level and the place went to rack and ruin. This was over a decade ago.
A further problem is one of them is family.
They have two children and while the children were teenagers and living at the house it was in general a very active place and one could, if one was not observant believe the adults had as many friends as the offspring.
When the children left home to go to uni the house died in effect and what the adults discovered is they didn't really have any friends; at least not the sort one could call and just say come up for a while, or make a visit to.
Both the adults are extremely social conscious people and given a choice between deep digging the vegetable garden, or going into the village and chatting to people they know over a coffee, the coffee date wins hands down.
The main house is a morgue. Six bedrooms empty. A kitchen so big that you could fit the entire square meterage of my house in it and still get to the sink.
One of them likes to travel. In theory, a lot of the travel is for work. That leaves one person in a massive house halfway up a mountain. This person got lonely and started drinking. I'm not talking about getting legless, I'm talking about the slow but steady road into alcoholism of the more socially acceptable type. Up here no one gets to see them weave off to bed every night having drunk a bottle and half of wine. I know that's not a lot by some peoples standards for one person, but it's the regularity that defines alcoholism unless one is taking about binge drinkers.
This is okay, it's their lives. The problem is when the smallholding fantasy was in full swing they got other animals; quite a few other animals in fact.
It was a disaster for the animals. Stuff went on with animals here that would just make you turn your head and walk away.
Over the past few weeks I've gone to open up the animals here and I've found latches undone and doors open. I've forgotten to shut a coop, or enclosure twice in 9 years.
I know that the one with the drink problem on top of the mental health issues is coming out late in the evening and opening these doors. I've sat by the duck house hidden by the hay rack and watched them. They open the coop or enclosure, stick their head in, say a few words and walk away.
Childish though it may seem it is not possible to directly confront this person about their behaviour. You either get total denial, or a rage fit. I now have to wait for the lights to go out in the main house and go and do a check round.

 

[Shadrach]

I've been having a problem trying to figure out just what it is I want to say - "congratulations" doesn't really cover it. It's a tough job; riding herd on such a cosmopolitan collection of characters has driven some people to distraction and/or exhaustion. On this forum and others, I have read posts from mods who wound up declaring that they simply couldn't find the time and energy any more, and they had to quit; to me, it's a bit like congratulating someone for volunteering to run with the bulls. It is certainly a mark of the esteem with which you are regarded, so in that respect, I guess congratulations are in order. But my true sentiments are more along the lines of gratitude, for a willingness to try to police this crazy place!

Thank you, @N F C and @007Sean; may the roads be smooth, your strides long, and the bulls' horns short.

Yup, that's probably what I should have written. I've been a mod and staff elsewhere and in the end I found it was impossible for me to be impartial and constructive anymore and it was doing my head in as the saying goes.
Very sad when I left. Lots of online friends I miss.

 

[drumstick diva]

Well I really miss Sumi- she didn't treat any as offenders- she treated as human beings and never had to throw her weight around. She was a friend to all of us and fair. I can't think of anyone that didn't like her.

 

[DobieLover]

Thanks Shad need that coffee boost every morning made the banana nut bran muffins I do have the new dr appointment today at 2 :30 not quite 1/2 hour drive 20 miles away 60 mile an hour road but anyone for fresh hot muffin

Have a safe drive to your appointment, Penny.
I've helped myself to a hot muffin. Thank you very much!

Sooo, I've got domestic problems.
I haven't written much about my living circumstances here apart from that that directly relates to me. The couple I work for have mental health problems. They bought this place with inherited money and decided like many I read about on these forums, to retreat to the country and have a go at being small holders. The whole smallholding thing was and still is a complete fantasy. There is and has been no method and no attempt to rationalize costs, or keep the land productive. The reality of living the good life just wasn't a match for their skill or commitment level and the place went to rack and ruin. This was over a decade ago.
A further problem is one of them is family.
They have two children and while the children were teenagers and living at the house it was in general a very active place and one could, if one was not observant believe the adults had as many friends as the offspring.
When the children left home to go to uni the house died in effect and what the adults discovered is they didn't really have any friends; at least not the sort one could call and just say come up for a while, or make a visit to.
Both the adults are extremely social conscious people and given a choice between deep digging the vegetable garden, or going into the village and chatting to people they know over a coffee, the coffee date wins hands down.
The main house is a morgue. Six bedrooms empty. A kitchen so big that you could fit the entire square meterage of my house in it and still get to the sink.
One of them likes to travel. In theory, a lot of the travel is for work. That leaves one person in a massive house halfway up a mountain. This person got lonely and started drinking. I'm not talking about getting legless, I'm talking about the slow but steady road into alcoholism of the more socially acceptable type. Up here no one gets to see them weave off to bed every night having drunk a bottle and half of wine. I know that's not a lot by some peoples standards for one person, but it's the regularity that defines alcoholism unless one is taking about binge drinkers.
This is okay, it's their lives. The problem is when the smallholding fantasy was in full swing they got other animals; quite a few other animals in fact.
It was a disaster for the animals. Stuff went on with animals here that would just make you turn your head and walk away.
Over the past few weeks I've gone to open up the animals here and I've found latches undone and doors open. I've forgotten to shut a coop, or enclosure twice in 9 years.
I know that the one with the drink problem on top of the mental health issues is coming out late in the evening and opening these doors. I've sat by the duck house hidden by the hay rack and watched them. They open the coop or enclosure, stick their head in, say a few words and walk away.
Childish though it may seem it is not possible to directly confront this person about their behaviour. You either get total denial, or a rage fit. I now have to wait for the lights to go out in the main house and go and do a check round.

This is a sad story that I can relate to being the child of an alcoholic. I, however, no longer have to deal with such things.
I'm sorry you are in this position. It gets old fast.

 

[DobieLover]

I got all but one tarp up. I just got too cold.
I went to install the heat mats in the nest box only to find that Draco feels the same way about today's weather and is back in one of the partitions for the night.
Right now I'm laying on the floor holding my feet in front of the stove to thaw them out.