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[3goodeggs]

When I met my husband after the first date I said, 'The hair or me, not both,"
The hair went.
The boy does not like long hair, but he can not find time to ever get it cut.
They have curly hair, so when it gets long it makes their heads really big. Freakishly so.

 

[Tumbling K]

3GE, what a great day. I understand about the increased 'nerdiness'. One of my nephews accelerated his nerdiness once he went away to engineering school. In a good way of course. His hair was down to his shoulders until last year. He showed up at my sister's Christmas eve dinner with his new 'girlfriend'. You women always have to change 'us'.

When I met my husband after the first date I said, 'The hair or me, not both,"
The hair went.
The boy does not like long hair, but he can not find time to ever get it cut.
They have curly hair, so when it gets long it makes their heads really big. Freakishly so.

women pick their husbands, similar to picking a Christmas tree.

they see the men they choose with all the decorations (read potential), and start decorating (read enlightening us to our potential) the men, from day one........

after years and years of decorating, they mostly have it the way they want, but so much like a Christmas tree, there is always that one bald spot!!

 

[Bunnylady]

When I met my husband after the first date I said, 'The hair or me, not both,"
The hair went.
The boy does not like long hair, but he can not find time to ever get it cut.
They have curly hair, so when it gets long it makes their heads really big. Freakishly so.

I hear you - I had a friend in college that was tall, skinny, blond, and had really curly hair - I called him "the 7-foot-tall dandelion."

 

[3goodeggs]

Ha!

 

[WVduckchick]

The boy is home!

He is taller.
Really.
tall-
I need to put him against the door frame and stand on a chair and see what he goes.

Four months at an engineering college and he looks like a nerd. a bigger nerd. A nerdier nerd.

As soon as he wakes up he is getting put in the car and driven to the barber.
I might do the hair cut before the measuring though.
It should remove a few inches.

As soon as he got out of the airport doors and the Florida humidity hit him he went... "Oh my! The humidity, I have missed it.It feels so good."

OH! and while I was waiting at the gate exit... this guy who looked familiar walked by. He saw me see him and I nodded and thought, 'Dang, that's Edward James Olmos.with his grand kids.'
I googled him on my phone and it was him. Five feet away.
I did not run up and say ,"Hey! Battle Star Galactica guy! Hey! Hey!"
Because he deserves privacy and I am cool like that.
But still.

I can read the excitement, and I'm happy for you that your boy is home for Christmas... and a haircut...

 

[WVduckchick]

women pick their husbands, similar to picking a Christmas tree.

they see the men they choose with all the decorations (read potential), and start decorating (read enlightening us to our potential) the men, from day one........

after years and years of decorating, they mostly have it the way they want, but so much like a Christmas tree, there is always that one bald spot!!

You continue to surprise me with your insightfulness.

I like my big ole Christmas tree.... I like to climb all the branches.

 

[LittleLakePhil]

Iit would have been nice if my husband had opened a door or helped me with my coat.
I think that would have been sweet.

I still unloaded a tractor trailer of soil (wet soil) while he drove around delivering plants..,
I pulled more than my weight and my body was not made like a man's body.
I am paying the price now.
My husband bought 80 pound sacks of cement for me to carry because he saved 12 cents by not buying the 60 pound sack.
When I found out that it came in 40 pound sacks I was so furious I could not talk to him.

He spent way more than that at the chiropractor getting my ribs put back into place.
Women are as smart as men, in some ways smarter. I think as long as we are willing to and allowed to do to  our abilities, that is feminism.
Trying to do what men do is fine, but f it breaks you, Why?

eggs....I would never think to make my wife carry anything...
I get the door for who ever is there much like sour......I am guilty about the toilet seat though.....I always try to be a gentleman. We must be more polite up here because anytime I go below the dang bridge the people compliment me on my politeness and I don't get it just normal little lake behavior.
Bert nice thought....Although you must be careful about the whole"it takes a village" concept as it can go too far when the village decides they want to raise your children ,etc......that's when the whole Commie share fest begins. They think you can't do it by yourself. The whole "collective" mentality.

 

[Tumbling K]

eggs....I would never think to make my wife carry anything...
I get the door for who ever is there much like sour......I am guilty about the toilet seat though.....I always try to be a gentleman. We must be more polite up here because anytime I go below the dang bridge the people compliment me on my politeness and I don't get it just normal little lake behavior.
Bert nice thought....Although you must be careful about the whole"it takes a village" concept as it can go too far when the village decides they want to raise your children ,etc......that's when the whole Commie share fest begins. They think you can't do it by yourself. The whole "collective" mentality.

Phil,

my analogy, in no way refers to raising a child with the village.merely a concept about team work, between man and woman, and their relationship together, as it relates to family, life and love.

You continue to surprise me with your insightfulness.

I like my big ole Christmas tree.... I like to climb all the branches.

thanks, but don't tell anyone ok? I prefer the frog moniker.

does you Christmas tree know about your flesh...er flashlite thing?

 

[3goodeggs]

My husband is a really sweet guy. he is nice to me, and I would always ask him,' Would you expect your mother to carry this?" and his reply was, 'no. I never would.'
But I was the only girl in my father's family and I was expected to do what the guys did. It was so much harder for me.

My brother thought I was a total waste of oxygen because I could not throw a bale of hay into the loft. I had to drag it.
So I grew up being treated like a waste, and working five times as hard to prove my value.
The husband just let me keep going with that attitude.

He regrets it now, and won't let me lift hardly anything.
But, we had a nursery to build, and it was only us.
If I had not done it, then he would not have ever gotten it done. We would have run out of money and given up on his dream.
It was a sacrifice, and you do that for people you love.

And other than my one set Grandparents and now son, He is the only other person out there that loved me back.

 

[OrganicFarmWife]

women pick their husbands, similar to picking a Christmas tree.

they see the men they choose with all the decorations (read potential), and start decorating (read enlightening us to our potential) the men, from day one........

after years and years of decorating, they mostly have it the way they want, but so much like a Christmas tree, there is always that one bald spot!!

True enough...my tree is still a work in progress, but much improved since I got him off the lot
@3goodeggs I am glad your boy is home. And sorry you did not get treated right growing up. I too grew up with all boys, but the opposite attitude. I was the understood ruler (and ruled with an iron fist ) My father always says on was the best thing to happen to the boys, because I taught them to respect me. I was a mean little girl