BYC Café

[DobieLover]

Miracle of miracles... Jr. called DH tonight and asked to talk to me. This was at the the salon while I was getting a haircut mind you.
So... Jr. apologized for the way he handled things and what he did and said that the reason he did it was because he "heard me tell his father that he (Jr.) wanted to institutionalize him (dad)".
W
T
F
??

NEVER said anything to that effect. But that would certainly explain his reaction.
What I do remember is DH not liking that Jr. wanted to talk to me and he was getting very upset so I gave the phone to DH so he could talk to his son. At some point DH said something along the lines of "well, I know I'm not going in a home" and I replied something along the lines of "no on said you were going in a home". Very vague memories of the whole discussion.

Jr. completely misunderstood what was being said and got scared.

Ultimately, we cleared the air and everything is fine between us now. DHs sister... don't see it happening. I basically let Jr. know that I've seen through her facade from the beginning and she's not fooling anyone but her brother (DH).

At any rate, it was nice to have an honest conversation with Jr. and straighten things out.

DH will be going to his very sweet sister's house for a late B-day celebration this Saturday (his B-day was 9/6) and will stay overnight and come home later on Sunday. All I asked Jr was that they keep the sugar to a low roar as it really affected DH badly when he came back from the wicked witch of the east sister's house with a bag full of Oreos, homemade brownies, cookies, Cheez-its and cheese cracker packets that he'd been eating when with her. All that crap did him not one bit of good. There are many studies siting how bad refined sugar is for the Azheimer's brain. I noticed the difference when he got home from Candyland.

 

[DobieLover]

On a funnier note...
I have 39 bundles of shingles sitting on pallets in my front yard that have been there for just over 3 years.
I am selling them for $15 a bundle, about 1/2 price.
I'm just going to buy new to do our roof because moss is growing on the edges of the shingles and needs to be cleaned off each one and allowed to dry before hauling it up onto the roof. Way too much work to do. I did it for the addition but that's it.

I got a reply on the ad I placed from someone who wanted to trade me baseball or football cards or NASCAR collection for them. He's got to be kidding. I'm not a 12 year old boy!

I emailed him back and said I'd be happy to make a trade for the shingles. I'd trade him the shingles for a pile of cash.

 

[pennyJo1960]

Oh your going to have double what he came home with now you do realize that

 

[Perris]

everything is fine between us now

that is such good news Tonya

 

[aart]

At any rate, it was nice to have an honest conversation with Jr. and straighten things out.

How old is this 'kid'?
Maybe he can become an ally in advocacy.

 

[DobieLover]

How old is this 'kid'?
Maybe he can become an ally in advocacy.

41. Ironically, that was part of the conversation. He told me that he thought we got along pretty good and that he felt he was my biggest advocate and was always defending me with other members of the family. The "other members of the family" would be his mother and DHs wicked witch of the east sister.
DH is the youngest of 7 and she is really the only one I have an issue with among his siblings. You know when you first meet someone and right off the bat you can tell they don't like you before they've even met you? That's her.

 

[DobieLover]

Good morning Cafe. Coffee is on. I've got lots planned for today.
That lazy window breaking oaf of a nephew of mine installed 3 whole entire deck boards and 3 whole entire plants!!!!!! WOW! That is about 40 minutes of work for me.
I plan to crack the whip on him today. He surely needs it!
Everyone wants mom in her new house but no one wants to help get the work done to get her in there.
Oh boo hoo, it's so hot. Pu-lease! I've been sweating buckets all day long for hours on end, day after day down there. And he is 2 decades younger than me. Suck it up, Buttercup... can anyone guess why I never wanted kids?

 

[aart]

41. Ironically, that was part of the conversation. He told me that he thought we got along pretty good and that he felt he was my biggest advocate and was always defending me with other members of the family.

Well, that sounds pretty good.
The fact that he contacted you to clear things up is good thing, eh?
Tho doubts reign due to the truck window incident.

 

[aart]

Suck it up, Buttercup... can anyone guess why I never wanted kids?

They can be devastatingly disappointing.

 

[DobieLover]

Tho doubts reign due to the truck window incident.

I think you mean the phone call regarding the truck. At that point, Jr had it in his head that I told his father that he wanted to institutionalize him so I don't really blame him for that. If I thought I heard something similar I'd be pretty damn mad too. He also admitted that when he looked through all the transactions on his fathers account he didn't see anything that he was concerned with. (Yes, kiddo. I know.)
He just wanted to know what assets his father had so he could see if he qualified for any type of aid for his Alzheimer's. He had contacted Tioga Opportunities and found that he would qualify for someone to stay a few hours a day with him for free. And that's great. But we've already hired someone that we both like and trust and DH is becoming friends with her. She is extremely affordable and I can continue to save some money each month after paying all his normal expenses including Nan. I'm keeping her. I am happy to interview someone else in the event I could have them stay with him on days that Nan can't. But I made it very clear that the decision to bring someone into our home was ours (mostly mine) to make and no one else's.