BYC Café

[aart]

Roads were fine.
Been rough week or so.
Some comfort tonight helped.

Last week got 18 eggs, this week 38.
Thought I might lose my main egg customer over the winter,
but they are back.

 

[DobieLover]

I can't believe it but Skittles played with Piper for a minute or two today.

 

[DobieLover]

Good morning Cafe. Coffee is ready.

DHs "kids" are actually coming to visit him today. I write actually because twice since July they said they were coming to see him but never made arrangement and never even communicated that they weren't coming. RUDE!
I've never told them he's been in assisted living since May 31. They haven't even seen him since last July. I am so not looking forward to their visit. They also claim they want to come over tomorrow too. We'll see.
The main issues I have are
a) I don't like them for what they've done and how they've never bothered to get to know me but just make (erroneous) assumptions about me and
b) DH cannot converse with anyone so I end up having to act plastic and talk to them about mundane crap I don't care anything about. I find that exceedingly taxing.
Coffee.
I can get through it with lots of coffee.
And I'll let Bella and Piper wind it up into high gear. That'll be a good distraction and drown them out.
I really have to get my mind in a more positive place before they arrive but they are always acting like they know so much better than me and I should be doing this or that. It gets my guard up. And it's a very big one.

 

[aart]

I've never told them he's been in assisted living since May 31.

That should light a fire.
Best of cLuck.

 

[sourland]

Good morning, and thanks for the coffee.

@DobieLover I am so very sorry that you have to deal with this.

 

[Mtn Margie]

Shad, you are on a list now!!!!! Any apartments coming up for rent after scaring the "life" out of people?
DL, I hope your DH will enjoy seeing his kiddos, and maybe that will make it "worth it" for you. Even if they were never close, it is still reassuring to a parent
to see their kids....in general. There are exceptions for sure.
They will be shocked and probably the mundane conversation is because they don't know how / if they should talk about complicated stuff. Keep it simple/ keep it fun! Hugs!

 

[Sally PB]

@DobieLover, sending you positive waves! And hugs.

I was just going to ask you how your DH is doing these days?

Sometimes I'm sad that I don't have much family. Then I realize all the stress I'm missing, and I'm grateful for that.

 

[bruceha2000]

I'm sure there is a joke in here somewhere but I'm too dense to get it.

Given people's hearing tends to diminish as they age, I presume the intent was that one could have louder speakers in a building full of older folks.

 

[pennyJo1960]

Lot's of fun in the Cafe this morning.
I have set off a few smoke alarms over the years.
Never had the fire department show up over it.
Only lived in a apartment once for like a year.

 

[DobieLover]

Even if they were never close, it is still reassuring to a parent
to see their kids....in general.

He was close to them. They just never bothered getting to know me. At all.

They will be shocked

They were. He's gotten pretty bad. His daughter fed him and held his hand through the meal. I have to when I have him for a meal.
He kept crying the way he does when he sees me. I kept telling them he just misses them and this is what he does now. I told them that I was going to use music to change his spirits and they were surprised to see how well it worked. Until a sentimental song came on and he started weeping again.

Keep it simple/ keep it fun!

It wasn't as bad as I anticipated. They were decent.