I'm beginning to believe the answer to that question is NO! My FIL has been running his mouth to MY best friend at her work! Can you believe that?! Why must they meddle?!?! It is so obnoxious! I just had to rant...they get on my nerves SOOO bad! Let's see what all I have done wrong... I make them do chores, keep their room clean, help with animals. I demand they make good grades...because they are capable! I also, teach them not to smart mouth adults, not to do everything their friends do, teach them table manners such as not to smack their food or talk with their mouths full...I have taught them how to take care of themselves and be independent. They both can cook at least enough to get along on their own. I also figured out what the youngest was allergic to and got her on a diet so that her face doesn't swell to the size of a basketball when she eats a food that disagrees with her. The oldest doesn't have as many skin issues because we have found things that work for her. YEP, I am guilty of all these things. ALSO, I am guilty of punishing them for misbehavior. Tough love when they make HUGE mistakes, and on occassion yelling at them, on occassion losing it because the thing I had told them about 10000000 times had yet to sink into their head and 18 years is NOT ENOUGH TIME TO KEEP REPEATING THE SAME LESSON OVER FOR 2 OR 3 YEARS Guilty of loving them enough to spank them when they run out into the street. Guilty of NOT letting them do what thy wanted to because either they weren't mature enough or I did not know the other kids parents well enough to trust them with my kid for an extended period of time. I'm also guilty of checking up on them to see if they were doing things that would get them hurt, like the time DD had put ALL personal info on the net for the world to see, and the time other DD had been getting OVERLY friendly with the boyfriend...UGH I am SUCH A HORRIBLE MOM!!!!! NO wonder they don't like me! I have offered to let the in-laws HAVE my job when the girls went to their house and whined to them that I was intolerable...funny they didn't want it...they just want to tell ME HOW TO DO IT!!!!! NOW they are mouthing off IN A PUBLIC PLACE TO MY FRIEND!!!!!!!!!!! I'm SO DONE with those people! I am going to work and have a HAPPY DAY! I hope they do as well, and find something better to talk about besdes EVIL old me!