Can i put my daughter in school early? (teachers? moms? anyone? HELP)

[Katy]

Here you have to be 5 by September 1 to enroll in kindergarten. Don't be in such a rush for her to grow up!! They grow up too fast as it is. My 2 year old granddaughters can sing their alphabet and count to ten , but that doesn't mean they are ready for school.

 

[Momma_Cluck]

I'd opt for "Begindergarten" or "Headstart"... now days kids have to know how to write their name, address & phone number, know their colors & A,B,C's and count to 50 before kindergarten...

AND it is more than just knowledge.. is she psychologically ahead?? does she "act" and "Behave" older than 4?

What about socially? Is she very social with large groups of kids? or does she stand apart and observe?

All of these things have to be considered for HER sake...
and then again-- no matter what the answer to any of these, it depends on the standards where you live...

When we moved to where we live, despite the fact my son was reading at a 3rd grade level, doing Math etc... they would not let him into Kindergarten until age 5... and THEN we still had to hold him back due to socialization issues (He is an Aspie)

 

[conny63malies]

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I had my DS in there for weeks. IT was in Eustis Florida. We removed him after four weeks after he got bitten bloody and the teacher couldnt answer to which kid did it. THey were glad to see him go because he was special needs and not potty trained at this point. Some states have a voluntary preK program for kids.

 

[jnjross]

dd turns 4 in nov and she starts in aug in k3/4

 

[Ridgerunner]

When I was in 1st grade (kindergarten was not an option way back then) we had a girl that cried all day long. This went on for the entire first week of school and they finally agreed to wait another year. She was old enough to be in our class but was not emotionally ready. She graduated from high school as salutatorian. In my opinion, she would not have done as well if she had not waited a year.

One of my son's birthday put him at the cusp. He could legally start school or wait until the next year. As we did not think he was socially ready to be in that class, we opted to wait a year, so instead of being the youngest in the class, he was one of the oldest. He represented Louisiana twice in national academic competitions (Geography Bee) and earned other honors and a nice scholarship. I'm convinced waiting the extra year made a big difference for him plus he received an entire extra year of childhood.

If you can legally do it, it is your personal decision. No one can make it for you.

 

[bubbazmommy]

My parents started me a year early and it did make it difficult as I got older. My friends were able to do things I was not and it is very hard to have friends if you are not able to do things with them. I agree homeschooling or preschool is your best bet.

 

[lilbirdee]

From a mother who put her advanced (she was reading at a 2nd grade level at age 3) barely four year old in school, I say wait till next year. Take the advice about preschool etc. if she really wants to go to "school".
My daughter's experience was that every year she just got further & further away from the other kids socially. It didn't help that she was 1-2 years younger than them, but then also 1-2 years ahead of them academically. Bad combo. She excelled in her education, but failed socially. By 6th grade she was coming home every day in tears because the other girls hated her and she dreaded school so much that I made the decision to just keep her home for a year. She then went to Middle school with kids her own age. She was still many years ahead academically, but she could then fit in socially. And for the first time made some really sweet friends.
Today she is a brilliant 28 year old mid-wife who still thanks me for that year at home to catch up. We learned the hard way that it isn't the smarts, but the maturity that is most important.