Well, one thing that might also be fun and get things rolling, if you have friends who you'd like to have over, (this is all assuming the hubby is handy, and you like the wife) invite them for a casual crock pot soup supper, or chili and corn bread etc etc, ~FOR AFTER THE COOP IS FINISHED! Discuss with the other wife a little, and then propose this to your husband as a chance to get it 'over with' and have some fun at the same time... cause he deserves to have some fun too after all his hard work! >.>
After a nice hot meal, if everyone is social, maybe a game of cards or trivial pursuit or whatever you all enjoy with snacks etc. This is the way I've gotten things done and you know the saying, "Many hands make light work"
I find a crock pot of soup and some bread and or salad easier than a cook out, and this time of year, hot soup sounds SOOOOoo good!
I too hate to rip sheets of plywood etc, and that really is best done with two people, but I've had to learn to manage it over the years. I hope you get a chance to become more confident with them all, it's a really good thing to have in your skills list. That's one list that can never be too long!