- Mar 25, 2011
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Kitt,
That was probably the best thing you could have done for both you and the two of them! They may not like you for it (but then, they were treating you like crap anyway, so what difference does it make) -- and I'm sure YOU like YOURSELF better for having stood up for yourself! Some people will simply take advantage of others, and your MIL is (very) apparently one of those people who will do so. I second Imp: GOOD FOR YOU!
Stay strong, believe in yourself, and stick with what you said! (Videotaping the clean house. grounds, etc is also a great idea, but I don't think I'd want to leave my home with people like your MIL and FIL staying there -- although doing that so you could bring the SIL and BIL down to earth may be a brilliant idea!)
Stay strong, though -- it's not going to be easy being firm, but you simply cannot do yourself the disservice of letting them walk all over you -- your DH needs you healthy, sane, and loving when he comes home! Your house, your rules -- and they could always go live with the SIL and/or BIL, right? YOU are the most important person in this scenario, in that YOU are the one holding everything together, cleaning up, cooking, etc. It isn't healthy for adults who can do things NOT to do things -- I'm disabled, and I know that it's what you CAN do that let's you feel good about yourself -- if you concentrate on what you can't do, it just spirals into depression, and then you really can't do anything!
But then, I've never been a lazy person -- perhaps your MIL has always been pretty lazy . . . . Trusting that she'll clean up after her pets is, probably, not going to happen -- could the dogs stay outside, too? I love animals, but even they don't crap where they live when they're in the wild!
And military doctors are sometimes the best in the world, sometimes the worst; your MIL can obviously talk a good game if she could talk the commander into giving her more morphine before her prescription was up! Perhaps you should get in touch with a Narcotics Anonymous group, and see if you can get some advice from them about dealing with her; addiction to legal drugs can be just as debilitating as to illegal drugs, especially if her doctors are supporting her in her destructiveness (albeit unintentionally).
So, our thoughts are with you -- positive ones!
carroll
That was probably the best thing you could have done for both you and the two of them! They may not like you for it (but then, they were treating you like crap anyway, so what difference does it make) -- and I'm sure YOU like YOURSELF better for having stood up for yourself! Some people will simply take advantage of others, and your MIL is (very) apparently one of those people who will do so. I second Imp: GOOD FOR YOU!
Stay strong, believe in yourself, and stick with what you said! (Videotaping the clean house. grounds, etc is also a great idea, but I don't think I'd want to leave my home with people like your MIL and FIL staying there -- although doing that so you could bring the SIL and BIL down to earth may be a brilliant idea!)
Stay strong, though -- it's not going to be easy being firm, but you simply cannot do yourself the disservice of letting them walk all over you -- your DH needs you healthy, sane, and loving when he comes home! Your house, your rules -- and they could always go live with the SIL and/or BIL, right? YOU are the most important person in this scenario, in that YOU are the one holding everything together, cleaning up, cooking, etc. It isn't healthy for adults who can do things NOT to do things -- I'm disabled, and I know that it's what you CAN do that let's you feel good about yourself -- if you concentrate on what you can't do, it just spirals into depression, and then you really can't do anything!
But then, I've never been a lazy person -- perhaps your MIL has always been pretty lazy . . . . Trusting that she'll clean up after her pets is, probably, not going to happen -- could the dogs stay outside, too? I love animals, but even they don't crap where they live when they're in the wild!
And military doctors are sometimes the best in the world, sometimes the worst; your MIL can obviously talk a good game if she could talk the commander into giving her more morphine before her prescription was up! Perhaps you should get in touch with a Narcotics Anonymous group, and see if you can get some advice from them about dealing with her; addiction to legal drugs can be just as debilitating as to illegal drugs, especially if her doctors are supporting her in her destructiveness (albeit unintentionally).
So, our thoughts are with you -- positive ones!
carroll
