Chickens for 10-20 years or more? Pull up a rockin' chair and lay some wisdom on us!

[WalkingWolf1]

That's funny...my dad had a black belt too, called it The Black Persuader. Mom always preferred the switches...more pain for less power behind the swing.

I bet quite a few of us OTs have similar stories about childhood.

I wonder if these belt whoop'ns had anything to do with the "deathstare" we have as adults? I'm reading this laughing my *** off. I can still hear the sound of the belt buckle and the slapping the tail of the belt made as he quickly pulled it through his belt loops to wear us out.

My kids have been told by friends that my stare makes them go cold inside. I tell my kids it's only 'cause they don't know what real discipline is.

 

[Beekissed]

Nah...all my sibs got the belt and I'm the only one with the stare(out of nine!). I think DL has it right...you are either born with it or not. I think the common denominator is the fact that we recall our whippings as cherished childhood memories while our sibs are probably whining about how horrible their childhoods were. We took our whuppin's and got stronger, they took it and got resentful, rebellious and weaker.

You are either born an alpha or not. Some can try to learn it and can carry it off sometimes but not when they really need it.

And, yes, I don't yell when I'm mad, I just get more quiet and my words get bigger~but the menace grows.

 

[delisha]

All these story's about the sound of belt buckle's and switches do not bring back such good memories for me. I give people credit for finding good in them. I personally do not, and wish I did. It just brings memories of pure terror and fear.

 

[Beekissed]

I'm sure that some folks did not have that kind of punishment as a part of discipline from loving, rational parenting, so I can understand if it doesn't exactly resonate as a good thing from the past. For me, it was proof that my parents did love me and cared for how my character was formed and what kind of person I would become. It worked, I think.

 

[fowlman01]

That's a lot of fat!

w.

 

[thedragonlady]

Nah...all my sibs got the belt and I'm the only one with the stare(out of nine!). I think DL has it right...you are either born with it or not. I think the common denominator is the fact that we recall our whippings as cherished childhood memories while our sibs are probably whining about how horrible their childhoods were. We took our whuppin's and got stronger, they took it and got resentful, rebellious and weaker.

You are either born an alpha or not. Some can try to learn it and can carry it off sometimes but not when they really need it.

And, yes, I don't yell when I'm mad, I just get more quiet and my words get bigger~but the menace grows.

Yup, It's the quiet menace......WHAT next ?

 

[Mountain Momma]

All these story's about the sound of belt buckle's and switches do not bring back such good memories for me. I give people credit for finding good in them. I personally do not, and wish I did. It just brings memories of pure terror and fear.

I don't know about terror and fear but I did get paddled in second grade, Mrs. Daily. The paddle had holes drilled in it. My step dad had a black belt and I had welts a few times. And my mom sent me to the woods for switches all the time. lol. Summer was shorts and switches and slip and slides. I was the oldest so everything was my responsibility. My kids act like I've crushed them if I land a smart whollup on their tail. I don't know what they would do if they actually felt pain or had a mark! Usually they just laugh at me unless I pack a little publicity in on it. Then their pride gets hurt. The worse I can threaten is "Stop it or I'm gonna stop this car and spank you in front of God and everybody!" I bought a giant spatula once. Called it my spanking spatula. I would get it out and threaten them with it every now and then. They were terrified of it. I never actually used it. The idea was enough. DH thought I would really use it though, and so he disappeared it. I bought others, none as dramatic as the huge one, and he kept throwing them away when I wasnt around. Now when the dogs are really bad Henry will say...."mom, I think they need the spanking spatula". Its been almost two years since I even had one and he still remembers it. lol. I'm telling you ideas scare kids into good behavior better than spankings. I'm proof of that. Sometimes the deed was worth the spanking. Like getting my sisters to jump the creek right before church. lol. But when mom said there was a boogieman in her closet, boy I stayed away from there for years! I had outgrown her size 5 shoes by the time I was brave enough to open the door!

Now Nanna, my neighbor accross the road. She has the look. She can give them the look from accross the store and they straighten right up. I dont have the look with anyone but DH.

Hey, does getting paddled in school come with some kind of award?
L

 

[Beekissed]

If my kids had laughed at me during disciplining, they would likely be spending their lives needing some kind of aid in walking. I don't think they would even THINK the stray thought that punishment was funny. They still would not.

Could be why the dogs won't mind either...

Everyone knows you don't mean it when you say it.

 

[Beekissed]

That's a lot of fat!

w.

Al would like her. Al loves the fat chicks....

 

[Ridgerunner]

Since we are talking about schools and discipline way back when, I'll mention that I went to a country school. My parents took me to school my first day and called my teacher by her first name. She called them by their first name. My 4th grade teacher who was also my 5th grade teacher was my first cousin, once removed. Someone earlier mentioned that punishment at school was followed up at home. I didn't have a chance.

I think one big point in all this paddling. It was not done in anger. It was proof that doing things had consequences. There is a difference in punishment and abuse.