Chickens for 10-20 years or more? Pull up a rockin' chair and lay some wisdom on us!

[delisha]

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If I drank alcohol I would say both. It works great in both bread and pie crust.

 

[Rachel'sFlock]

Raising my hand!!!!
I have learned so much and have changed so much of what I did, based on the knowledge of you good folks sharing with us!
FOREVER grateful! From me, and all 20 of my chooks! Thank you for taking the time!!!

 

[delisha]

I am a patient loving mother. I spanked one of my kid once and promptly threw up. My poor kid was so frightened I could never do it again. My DH never did it when I was home either. I have really good happy successful kids. None of them has chickens or goats or sheep. That kind of surprises me. They loved 4H growing up and riding horses and all the animals.

 

[Rachel'sFlock]

All these story's about the sound of belt buckle's and switches do not bring back such good memories for me. I give people credit for finding good in them. I personally do not, and wish I did. It just brings memories of pure terror and fear.

I'm with you, delisha.
I had to ask my husband, who employed that same tactic to remove his belt (not for 'discipline', of course, merely removal), to please slow down in the process.
The sound of it made my hackles raise for 25 years after leaving home.

 

[Beekissed]

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You are right....I love my boys down to the ground and they love me the same way. I'm probably the only Mom I know whose boys hugged their mom no matter what their friends thought...hug me anywhere in front of anyone, no matter what age they were and are. Always kiss me goodnight, even as teens and always come out of the house to greet me when I come home, no matter the weather or what they were doing when I got there. We never part without saying we love each other, every phone conversation ends that way too.

My boys would have been very concerned that I had stepped on something and gotten hurt and they wouldn't be smiling about it...they would immediately say they were sorry I had gotten hurt and try to help me. Yes, I have mama's boys, each and every one.

They tower over me and are ornery sweet and can make me laugh until I pee my pants. I don't mind...they are God's gift to me and I don't know many people as fine as they are. I'd like them even if they weren't my children, that's how nice of people they are. They show extraordinary compassion for others and always make me proud.

Spanking your kids for doing wrong is not mutually exclusive to love. I could whip the boys and they would be hugging me in a matter of minutes...they know I never whipped them out of anger. That's not why you spank a child. You spank them out of love and it never feels good~why would anyone WANT to have to spank a child? But, there are no perfect children and there is always a need for correction. Spanking is not the first resort nor is it a knee jerk reaction to be done in anger~but I've never met a child who didn't eventually need one.

I think people who have parents who whip out of anger get a twisted sense of spanking and think it's done as a hateful and hurtful thing. That's sad and should never be that way. My parents made the mistake of punishing us but never really using any positive reinforcement, which is never good. But..they did the best they could, considering how they were raised and they had 9 children to sort out. I think they did just fine and I love them for it.

My boys love me for how I raised them too and I used a lot of positive reinforcement, a lot of true love and fun to raise them~not just spankings. I think every person should try to improve upon the last generation's methods if they can. There is always room for improvement, I say.

 

[Mountain Momma]

You are right....I love my boys down to the ground and they love me the same way. I'm probably the only Mom I know whose boys hugged their mom no matter what their friends thought...hug me anywhere in front of anyone, no matter what age they were and are. Always kiss me goodnight, even as teens and always come out of the house to greet me when I come home, no matter the weather or what they were doing when I got there. We never part without saying we love each other, every phone conversation ends that way too.

My boys would have been very concerned that I had stepped on something and gotten hurt and they wouldn't be smiling about it...they would immediately say they were sorry I had gotten hurt and try to help me. Yes, I have mama's boys, each and every one.

They tower over me and are ornery sweet and can make me laugh until I pee my pants. I don't mind...they are God's gift to me and I don't know many people as fine as they are. I'd like them even if they weren't my children, that's how nice of people they are. They show extraordinary compassion for others and always make me proud.

Spanking your kids for doing wrong is not mutually exclusive to love. I could whip the boys and they would be hugging me in a matter of minutes...they know I never whipped them out of anger. That's not why you spank a child. You spank them out of love and it never feels good~why would anyone WANT to have to spank a child? But, there are no perfect children and there is always a need for correction. Spanking is not the first resort nor is it a knee jerk reaction to be done in anger~but I've never met a child who didn't eventually need one.

I think people who have parents who whip out of anger get a twisted sense of spanking and think it's done as a hateful and hurtful thing. That's sad and should never be that way. My parents made the mistake of punishing us but never really using any positive reinforcement, which is never good. But..they did the best they could, considering how they were raised and they had 9 children to sort out. I think they did just fine and I love them for it.

My boys love me for how I raised them too and I used a lot of positive reinforcement, a lot of true love and fun to raise them~not just spankings. I think every person should try to improve upon the last generation's methods if they can. There is always room for improvement, I say.

One thing I do notice, in all the things the kids do that I don't think are bad enough to get in trouble, they are all ears if I think it was bad enough. Maybe not often enough, but if mom thinks it was bad then tears and sorrys and putting themselves in time out...all that starts pouring out of them. Henry asked me to stop hugging him and kissing him when I drop him off in the mornings on the second week of first grade. It was a very sad moment for me but there are only 3 moms that walk their kids all the way to class so I respected his request. Nina would hug me and kiss me all morning if her teacher and I allowed it. lol. When Nina was about 3.5 she asked me why I never yell at her when she spills her milk. It was and is one of my favorite mom moments. When I was growing up spilled milk was a Federal offense. I dont think my kids have enough dicipline, in general, and I know it is my way of relating to them on a human level before a parent child level. I will say that Nina sat and wrote out, by hand, 18 thank you notes for her gifts at her Bday party. She was sincere and thoughtful and unique in each one. I didnt help her a single bit, all I did was tell her she could not get up till it was done and she only had an hour. And Henry was one of the very few 6 year olds on the Float (a parade) Saturday that didnt have to get reprimanded several times for throwing candy wrappers on the road, jumping on the float, sparring with fake guitars, and various other bad behaviors. To the point that one mom who does not know him well asked me if he was sick because he was so calm and quiet. Now tonight at the store they were both Banshies but that is very unusual. Anyway, whatever mistakes DH (who is the family softy by the way) and I are making they are less striking I think than the ones made with us. We know we have weak spots but I also think we have really great strong spots too. My worst fears for my kids are ancient history now. They are good students, good friends, confident, they are curious, they have common sense and make great arguments. They love each other dearly and are close, they don't accept answers that dont make sense to them and they question authority in a calm and reasonable manner. They can kick boards in half and they ask for what they want. If this is all they know by the time they get out of the nest (ha ha back to birds) Then its enough that they wont get pummeled too badly by life.
Now Emma fully recognizes me as the alpha. When I correct her she is miss professional. She tried to get under Nina's arm and hide from mme tonight at the dinner table. haha! That was it. That is when I layed out the snapping her on the nose deal. Im not going to make the same mistakes with her that I did with the other two. DH accused me of spoiling her the other night. I said sit, all the dogs know that one. Emma was the first and for a moment only one to do it. So she got the treat. DH will give them treats for nothing. I said I'm not spoiling her, I'm rewarding her for obedience and maybe the other two will catch on. Any way I must be having a hormone wave, getting all wordy again. Thanks for reading and thoughts in advance.
L

 

[delisha]

Lisa is funny and a good mommy

 

[luis torrijos]

Hi I'm looking to buy 3or 4 hens black giant Hersey for eggs but I also want to go broody can some one tell me where to go I'm from ilinois thanks

 

[Beekissed]

Here's a pic of my big boys...yeah, right in the middle of our big fat hillbilly wedding, the oldest son's wedding.

What you cannot see is that I am smack dab in the middle of this mess of boy bellies as they interrupt a very tender mother/son dance to a heart felt and tear jerking song~ to break into an embarrassing dance around their mother to "I'm Sexy and I Know It".

I couldn't breath and I couldn't stop laughing!!! This lasted all of 10 seconds and then the music went back to the tear jerker and the two groomsmen of the apocalypse walked calmly back to their tables as if nothing had happened and we continued our normal dance. I just love those big hambones!!!

 

[Mountain Momma]

Here's a pic of my big boys...yeah, right in the middle of our big fat hillbilly wedding, the oldest son's wedding.

What you cannot see is that I am smack dab in the middle of this mess of boy bellies as they interrupt a very tender mother/son dance to a heart felt and tear jerking song~ to break into an embarrassing dance around their mother to "I'm Sexy and I Know It".

I couldn't breath and I couldn't stop laughing!!! This lasted all of 10 seconds and then the music went back to the tear jerker and the two groomsmen of the apocalypse walked calmly back to their tables as if nothing had happened and we continued our normal dance. I just love those big hambones!!!

They look great! Happy, handsome, fun loving and healthy! I can see why you are so proud...and you must be tiny because I cannot even see a glimmer of you in this pic. Congrats Bee on yet another job well done!
L