So may have seen the topic on Thanks Plans... and the drama. Last year I invited all to my house for Christmas Eve supper... Mom do the ham, I handle the rest. Bro had to work... Mom made the ham but flaked on coming... Sis drove the ham, Uncle and KK out... QUICK opening of gifts then dash because of bad weather. SO... should I issue the invite this year? I REALLY want to. Not being religious, I think holidays are all about being with family. Whether that's Thanks, Easter, Christmas, whatever.. the POINT is bonding with family... because you never know if they'll be here next year you know? This is especially true since Gran and Papabear died. That's what I get out of it. Think, MAYBE, huge maybe... that MIL MIGHT be getting me a roaster for my B-day... that's Monday. She actually talked about getting me one in time for Thanks as an early b-day... so it's a decent maybe that I'll have one for Christmas. Stupid wall oven doesn't work, only a toaster oven, so NO hope of roasting either of the TWO turkeys I have in the freezer... because I'm insane and couldn't resist 29c a pound meat... ANYWHO... IF she does get me the roaster (too pricey IMO for a b-day gift plan to have DH give FIL $40 and not tell MIL who overspends) then I could do the turkey and trimmings and even if NO one shows WE still have a nice meal.... So, by Dec 14th I'll know if I have a turkey possible... and if not Sis does have the leftover cornish hens from the botched Thanks plans and said her and Kevin wanted to do that another time... well SHOULD I go ahead and invite Mom, Sis (and Co), Bro and GF to a Christmas meal... does NOT have to be ON Christmas, or Eve FTM... day after would be FINE... better even since DH will be off (Sunday is his only guaranteed and Christmas falls on a Sat this year so TWO WHOLE DAYS OFF!!).... SEEMS like a good idea... if no one shows, or few, then we still have a nice meal... if they do then I get the boon of family (drama and all), kids get to see family... gifts sparse but still... SEEMS like a nice idea... but I thought I'd asked for unbiased opinions from my friends on here. Oh BTW DH's side plans are always on the evening of the 25th. Everyone does their own household stuff in the AM... kids and all. Then we head to the Grands for dinner (last few years soup and sandwiches YUM)... then all home at a decent hour after a long day... hence thinking Eve or day after. Also Mom has not mentioned ANY plans to go to her house... NONE. Like last year... hence thinking of inviting all to mine so we're at least together. SHE might prefer to wallow in self pity, but I like to enjoy my loved ones while I can... you know? Anywho, any willing to voice a thought appreciated.