so 3 of my foster kids are visiting with family during either part of or all of today. Christmas is a big deal for me and always has been. I start cooking at 5am and usually end at 4pm when folks are hungry and ready to eat. I have 2 kiddos that are ALWAYS trying to skate out to be with a boyfriend or biological family (since they are 18 it's cool) on birthdays and holidays. Today another one wanted to visit a biological sister and we had already had a conversation about it.. Basically her christmas dinner is scheduled during the exact same time as ours is. I told DD that she can go if she can find her own ride to and from either before or after ours. Well guess how it ended up? Only time she could get a ride is before and then after our party. I told her she was going to miss it and she basically said oh well. That's it. I am done. Folks, kids family members... you want to skip out on us celebrating birthdays and holidays then you are also skipping out on gifts and any leftovers from close to 11 hours worth of cooking. When DD comes home she can make herself some cold cuts. She will stay out of the cookies, finger food, and I am very tempted to take back her present I was planning on letting her open today during the party. Skip out on the family... Ok, maybe I'm just mad at the moment but I am tired of either giving belated or trying to scramble around their schedules. They live here so it isn't the same as a kid who's moved out and has their own family.