Christmas Rant ******

[AK Michelle]

Quote:
Boyd is a boy cook

But he makes an AWESOME MOM!!!!

Love you Boyd.


Kids will be kids. We don't have to like them all the time but we get to poke fun at them anytime we want.

 

[AK Michelle]

Quote:
It's 5:00 somewhere dude!

 

[Mrs MIA]

Boyd. If you want, you can have our two boys over for dinner. They learned a long time ago that there are two choices... take it, or leave it. If they leave it, there is NO going back and changing your mind.

If it was me, I'd pack up all that lovely food and hang out at the Senior Center for a while.

 

[Boyd]

the real rub is my Dad and Step mom are stopping out and as a surprise my sister is back from Afghanistan and is coming also.

 

[babylady4]

Have the same thing here except it is my sister.... always puts her hubby and his family above her own. Makes life difficult since mom is 2 blocks one way from me and sister is 2 blocks the other way. She has known for the past YEAR my brother wife and baby girl were going to visit for Christmas; and yet allowed her hubby to plan a little get-together with his cousin on Christmas day (they are having the big celebration with his family tonight); and of course NONE of us are invited. My brother and his family drove from MN last night until 2 am to get here to visit us and this little snot will not stand up to her hubby and tell him off

..... major reason why I did not talk to her for over a year......

So I feel your pain... at least it is not your sibling......

 

[Wifezilla]

Remember...kids don't become human until after 21 or so

(Mine is home on leave. He is 21. We made quiche together this morning)

 

[cat]

I really do understand your rant, we have literally bent over backwards at times for our band of kids, both foster kids and blood - they sure know how to make you crazy.

One of the girls who left us 8 years ago after giving us a real ride through the rough, got in touch via a mutual acquaintance on facebook last week. We went to see her and her husband and two children at their little house - they are only living 30 miles away! It was amazing to see this grown woman doing so well, making such good choices and being a great mom (we were terrified of what would become of her as nothing we ever did or said seemed to take root with her). We went into the kitchen and hugged each other and she told me that everything she ever learnt about love and how to be a mom, she learnt from me. You could have knocked me over, I never thought anything I did was right with her and I spent so many nights wondering just how to cope with her moods and selfishness, wondering how I could get through to this hard to love kid - who could have guessed that things were actually getting through to her?

I guess what I am saying is I know the sacrifices that raising kids whether they are your own or other peoples involves. It just near breaks you up when they disregard the family you have made for them, to do their own thing with no thought for everyone else, treat you like a taxi service and completely disregard your feelings, but what you are doing is so vital; it is going in, the seeds are planted and there will be a harvest. Out of all the kids I thought might one day say thank you, this one was not the one I would ever have expected, and somehow that makes it all the more special.

Bless you Boyd, you are doing a wonderful thing that will make a difference not only in your kids lives, but in the generations after that are raised well and loved because you taught them how.

 

[maplesky7]

Chestnuts roasting on an open fire....

I'd watch you cook for me any day Mr. Mom.

loves ya,
gretch

 

[OrpingtonManor]

just for a moment, I will contribute to this rant. It is so hard when you do so much for kids, or anyone else for that matter, and still you get ignored.

to you for that. take the high road. yes, it feels cruddy. someday, it will matter to them. if you make it into a bad moment, that will be what is remembered. if you acknowledge that their family life is complicated, that is best.

my own need to rant comes from hosting a big soup and games night on Tuesday this week. We were to meet the new GF of DS1. I made sure to invite everyone, all sons and GFs, grandparents, even my exDH because I didn't want him to feel left out. Tonight, all of them will be having dinner at the parents' of the GF of DS2. I am home alone. No one considered inviting me. Who dropped the ball here? My exDH just came by to pick up DS1 and let slip that they were going there. He looked very sheepish. Was I too nice when I invited him? Are the parents of the GF seriously boorish? They have never invited me to anything. I wonder if it is because I don't make enough money. They are very money driven. It makes me sad, because I can understand my ex not inviting me to his house, but this seems cold. I will also take the high road, but the hurt is there. I'll have a little whiskey with ya! Things will be better!

 

[maplesky7]

well... i never! How rude of them.

You can keep your whiskey... I'll have something festive like a mudslide.