Because our Connecticut thread seems to be frozen, and I fear it's a result of the tragedy at Sandy Hook, I got busy searching some quotations pages (sometimes words will help me to process, and deal with things):
The sorrow for the dead is the only sorrow from which we refuse to be divorced. Every other wound we seek to heal -- every other affliction to forget: but this wound we consider it a duty to keep open -- this affliction we cherish and brood over in solitude.
--Washington Irving
Bereavement is a darkness impenetrable to the imagination of the unbereaved.
--Iris Murdoch
Grief fills the room up of my absent child, lies in his bed, walks up and down with me, puts on his pretty looks, repeats his words.
--William Shakespeare
To love means loving the unlovable. To forgive means pardoning the unpardonable. Faith means believing the unbelievable. Hope means hoping when everything seems hopeless.
--Gilbert K. Chesterton
I find hope in the darkest of days, and focus in the brightest. I do not judge the universe.
--Dalai Lama
We must accept finite disappointment, but never lose infinite hope.
--Martin Luther King, Jr.