contest15

So the youngest is a gymnast, has practice for 3 hours straight, 4 days per week. She spends this time with 4 other girls. They have been together as a 'work out team' for over a year. They work out year round taking only 2 weeks off in summer. She is AT the gym right now. These girls are like her sisters.

Today is one of the girls birthday party, everyone in the work out group AND another 12 girls from the team have been invited. Except NOT my daughter. She is not invited because she is 'weird'. She is a bit delayed, struggles with her language and isn't quite as socially adept as the other girls. So I GET why the kid didn't want to invite her. What is the mother's issue? I see this as cruel. I KNOW I should be happy that my sweet girl isn't being expose to these other girls as apparently they are a bit mean. But my heart is just broken for her.

So that's my story…. todays anyway.
I know the feeling. My youngest has ADHD. I fought getting him diagnosed because I didn't want him labeled and my DH and I were SO against medicating him... But he was classic... I found a website one time listing a whole bunch of symptoms. They said if your child had a total of 6 of these symptoms, they would likely be diagnosed with ADHD. There were 3 groups of 10 or more symptoms... My son had 12 before we finished the first set... We tried managing his behavior, watching his diet, everything except medication. It was easier when Mark was alive. We could tag team. If I got frustrated, he could take over... If he reached the end of his patience, I would step in... But after he died, it was so much harder to manage by myself. I finally had to make the heartbreaking decision to put him on Adderall...

The point I am trying to make is that Arthur is different. He still doesn't sit still very well, has a LOT of pent up energy, and since his Daddy died, he is very emotional. He gets angry very quickly, frustrates easily, and explodes and then cries. Kids are so mean to him. The kids on his basketball team throw balls at him and make fun of him. One day he told me he didn't want to go to practice because the kids had been picking on him all day and he couldn't handle being picked on at practice. I tried to get him to go, but he was getting closer and closer to a meltdown. I went to the school and picked him up. It breaks my heart. These kids have no idea how hard he struggles to get through each day. They have no idea what it is like to be inside of his brain, and how much he has been through in the past couple of years. Along with his father passing away, my older son had a bit of an emotional breakdown after Mark died and ended up havig to go live with is dad (he is from my first marriage which ended when I found out his father was gay...), so he lost his big brother too. Even though they get to see him a lot, and we still try to do many things as a family, it's not the same as having him living at home. I just want to grab those kids and make them understand, make them have some compassion... Arthur is the funniest, most compassionate, intelligent, caring, loving child. Yes, he's difficult at times, but he's a great kid and I wish they would just give him a chance...
 

New posts New threads Active threads

Back
Top Bottom