My DH worked with a guy that we had known for years, he was a few years older than us, so was actually in the military while we were in HS, but naturally came back to live here when discharged. Since I was a young teen, this guy gave me absolutely the creeps, I would almost panic when he came around and talked to DH. He "always" included me in the conversation, and would ALWAYS shake my hand. Even DH thought that was bizarre, as you don't usually do that when you know someone for years and just bump into them here and there. He was a notorious womanizer, married a mousey gal that I went to school with, and they had two daughters. One of their own and adopted one . . .oldest girl was a replica of her dad, adopted one was absolutely adorable. This man went to church right down the road from us, had an affair with one of the girls in the church who DID have an adorable husband and two little boys, and when it became known publicly, creep and his family went to a BIG church in a neighborhing town, "because they had more to offer the kids". Uh-huh. I have g.f.'s who felt the exact same way, he would make one of my friends walk down the aisle at the local grocery store where she worked to "get" something for him and he would watch her walk down and back. He is what I call a "cro--- watcher" pardon my french. But he was. He had affairs the entire time he was married, and on his way to a ball game for his youngest daughter, he was killed instantly (decapitated) when he drove through a country intersection talking on his cell phone. Know who he was talking too? The mother of the woman he was having an affair with. Daughter and wife went by and saw the horrible wreck, not realizing who it was, because he had a surprise for the daughter he had told her earlier. A new truck, so that is why they didn't recognize the vehicle involved. The woman he was having the affair with came to the visitation and was run out by the daughters. So much for a happy christian family image. Husband of the woman had NO clue that his BEST friend was with his wife, found out at the funeral home when they made her leave . . .now, he wasn't a "creep" in the terms of most of these descriptions, but nevertheless he was a creep. They come in all shapes and sizes. Even DH admitted he was "different". He also had these ice blue eyes that just would absolutely give me the willies and I would look everywhere but AT him when I did meet up with him.
The kicker was, he and wife was getting a divorce and he had told fellow workers that he absolutely did not want her to get A thing of his, and she ended up getting it ALL. Guess that is a lesson in being careful what you wish for.
And, to me . . .and I heard Oprah say this years ago and it has always stayed in my mind . . . .and I tell my sweet little DS this at least once a week, "if you feel like this isn't right, and something is telling you to GET OUT, that is God whispering in your ear!!!"
Enough said, but I do feel great empathy for people who have no where to go and have to hang out places all day. The way this country is headed, its going to get worse instead of better, and we will see more and more "creepy" people. The one thing we have to remember is, that person possibly could have been your neighbor. We, as a nation, have a tendancy to judge people by how they dress, talk, and look . . .and while I am not saying these people aren't dangerous, look at the famous serial killers. Bundy, even Dahlmer . . .the guy who killed all those years in Kansas . . .three inititals, can't remember for sure . . .went to work, mingled with the public every single day. . .and while some may have thought they were a cog off for some reason, not once for years did someone thing, "gee, I bet he is a serial killer!!!"
I just told DH last night I wished we owned 500 acres and lived right in the middle of it. He agreed.
