Devastated!!!

[Elite Silkies]

He is not worth your life, no one except your children are worthy of that. I do hope things get better for you.

 

[redhen]

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HEY! HEY! HEY!!!!!!!!! Whats THAT, you just said!??!

I better NEVER, EVER hear that again! NO man , and i DO mean NO man is EVER worth that!!!!!!!!!!!
Do i have to fly out there and set you right???

let me go check whats going on...(been off the last few days..)
I'm here for you... Dont EVER forget that you DO have people that care.

i wish i could help more...

 

[goobhen]

I just lifted you and your situation up in prayer. I do not know your exact situation, but I know it involves your marriage. As someone else said, no one is worth your life except your children, that is the truth. If you feel this bad, maybe it is time to get out of this situation. A lot of the people here on BYC have been in your shoes, I have. I finally packed up, sold everything and moved from Calif back to Indiana, with my son.
It wasn't easy raising my son on my own, but we both made it, he has a relationship with his dad. I am now with the love of my life, 22 years later. We have only been married for 6 years and they have been a blast.
There were times before I left my first husband that I felf like you, my situation had both other women (and boy do I mean plural on the women) and abusive behaviors and controls. There are people out there to help you, you have to take the first step, whether it is going to therapy for you, or ???
God bless you, be safe.

 

[Sjisty]

I don't know any details, but please know that we are all here for you!

 

[WingingIt]

I don't know (and don't need to) what happened, but wanted you to know I'm thinking of you.

 

[Elite Silkies]

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Our stories are quite similar! Although I wasn't married, I dealt with the (plural) women, beatings and verbal abuse. I too felt like life wasn't worth living, but you have to take a step back and look at life as a whole, not what is just in front of you at the moment. I raised my son alone too, and no it's not easy, but it's do-able. I found my husband, and it's been the best 12 yrs of my life! There are "GOOD" men out there, and no man that treats a women or vice versa is worthy of anyone feeling so bad about life.

Your true love is out there

 

[ChickInDelight]

You will get over all of this.

Oh yes, the best way to find a man that wants to be married is to find one that already is. New and unknown is so much more alluring than the person at home, well-known, that is forever droning about dirty socks on the floor.

I once read that 60% of marriages suffer affairs. The divorce rate is 50%, but not all divorces are in cheating marriages. This tells me that people and marriages do survive infidelity. Those that do, while tinged with a bitter-sweet pain, end up strong.

Right now, you may feel like you are watching the lives of others.

Soon, you may be faced with decisions. Decide what you want. Try with all your heart to attain it.

 

[angie3881]

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My ex was caught (by me) cheating on me with another man. I mean, I saw the whole thing. That's pretty embarassing...


Hope that at least got a laugh or a smile out of you, hang in there, whatever it is.

I am in love with you for posting this...

 

[Glenmar]

Wait? Your husband is gay???

 

[Elite Silkies]

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The OP's husband isn't, Iowa Roo Mom caught her ex with another man.