As long as he hears you out and you hear him out it will work out.
Dh did the same thing. He lost his job back in January and then got a truck driving job. I hated it. I hated pretty much everything about it, but mostly I missed him and hated how unhappy he seemed while doing it. The pay was never what it sounded like it would be and the schedule was way worse than they had promised. But, he was taking care of his family.
We were extremely fortunate that one of his old bosses called and offered him a good job in his field. It is contract work and has no bennies so we deliberated for a while, but he quit trucking and now is back home. In some ways we see as little of him now as we did then. Since it is contract work he really can't turn down overtime for fear they simply won't call him again. And it is all night shift.
But, this, like the other, will change. The only constant in life is change.
As long as you aren't swallowing your feelings to be supportive and you are both honest with each other things will find a way.
Can you be as honest with him as you have been with us??
When Dh was gone I used to say to him, "I miss you and I am lonely without you but, no matter where you go or how long you are gone, I will be here waiting for you."
After he was home and the new job felt better, he confessed how much he had missed us and how much he wanted to quit that job. He just couldn't bring himself to quit until he had something better.
Dh did the same thing. He lost his job back in January and then got a truck driving job. I hated it. I hated pretty much everything about it, but mostly I missed him and hated how unhappy he seemed while doing it. The pay was never what it sounded like it would be and the schedule was way worse than they had promised. But, he was taking care of his family.
We were extremely fortunate that one of his old bosses called and offered him a good job in his field. It is contract work and has no bennies so we deliberated for a while, but he quit trucking and now is back home. In some ways we see as little of him now as we did then. Since it is contract work he really can't turn down overtime for fear they simply won't call him again. And it is all night shift.
But, this, like the other, will change. The only constant in life is change.
As long as you aren't swallowing your feelings to be supportive and you are both honest with each other things will find a way.
When Dh was gone I used to say to him, "I miss you and I am lonely without you but, no matter where you go or how long you are gone, I will be here waiting for you."
After he was home and the new job felt better, he confessed how much he had missed us and how much he wanted to quit that job. He just couldn't bring himself to quit until he had something better.
