There is NO reason to tolerate an aggressive rooster! My first rooster was fairly middle of the road; he didn't ever attack us, but he would fluff up and act like he was going to. A raccoon (or something) got him one night, and our hens immediately became more social around us. We currently have 4 roosters, all over breeding age, and NONE of them ever act like they want to attack us or our DD. Someone even came to buy something we had posted on craigslist and she let her kids run around like lunatics and chase the roosters
and they still made no move to attack.
I do think handling matters, but not in the way that you are thinking. I think the less you handle your roos, especially when they are young, the more likely they are to behave themselves. I think that over-handling them when they are young can make them lose their fear and respect for people and that's not a good thing. We never pick up our roos unless we need to do something to them and they are all very well behaved.
Lastly, I think that breed matters... a LOT. We currently have a salmon faverolle roo and a buff orpington roo, both known for being sweet, kind breeds, and they are both sweet kind roosters. We also have two game bird X roos which we hatched and they are going to freezer camp shortly... (but they are very sweet).
Having an aggressive roo caused way too much stress in my life and if any of mine ever become aggressive, they are going in the pot ASAP. Good luck!
I do think handling matters, but not in the way that you are thinking. I think the less you handle your roos, especially when they are young, the more likely they are to behave themselves. I think that over-handling them when they are young can make them lose their fear and respect for people and that's not a good thing. We never pick up our roos unless we need to do something to them and they are all very well behaved.
Lastly, I think that breed matters... a LOT. We currently have a salmon faverolle roo and a buff orpington roo, both known for being sweet, kind breeds, and they are both sweet kind roosters. We also have two game bird X roos which we hatched and they are going to freezer camp shortly... (but they are very sweet).
Having an aggressive roo caused way too much stress in my life and if any of mine ever become aggressive, they are going in the pot ASAP. Good luck!