Do you guys open doors for girls?

[dave27889]

If I did not open the door for a lady my Grandaddy would come back from the grave and get me. I also open the door for families with kids and older people. I am 51 myself.

 

[AK Michelle]

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I love it when someone gets a door for me. I always look them in the eye and say thank you and have a great evening or nice day or whatever is appropriate.

It has nothing to do with whether or not I'm capable of opening the door. I can throw a 50 lb sack of feed on my shoulder and jog to my car in 3" heels. My capabilities are not the issue. It does not diminish my abilities, and I don't see where the flawed principle is.

I think it is a show of respect and good manners, which is why I always thank the person holding the door, and I make sure I hold the door for anyone I can, it's the polite thing to do.

 

[domino7]

I grew up in a time when a women would wait for the man to open a door. Obviously, those days are gone, and I think it's a shame. Some women act as if you're insulting them by holding the door, and letting them through first. Yes, I'm sure you're capable of opening your own door lol. My mother taught me that it was a sign of respect, and that men should revere women. That certainly doesn't mean I don't think women are equal or capable.

Letting a door slam in ANYONE'S face is a little different. It's just rude.

 

[pdsavage]

Open the door psh...Ill be strugling through the house with heavy stuff to take to the trash and he sits there on the couch,sometimes he says do you need help with that...Or hauling in all the groceries wich takes several trip while he sits on the couch...Now if he wants something from me he will open the door for me like it was a giant scrafice for him.....

 

[FarmerJamie]

Do you guys open doors for girls?

Absolutely, my children know they are expected to hold the door, particularly for older folks. male or female. The son, who actually enjoys seeing the smiles from people (i.e. women

) receiving the unexpected courtesy, goes out of his way to help. There are some women out there who are "offended" by the innocent act of holding a door and I feel sorry for them, particularly with all of the denigration of women going on in the popular culture. 9 times out of 10, we get a smile and a "thank you" - for those who are offended and vocal about it, the response is usually "sorry about that, I hope you have a nice day anyways". Usually leaves 'em speechless - one woman actually apologized to my son for being snippy with him.

A little courtesy goes a long way in this world, methinks.

 

[twentynine]

I have always opened doors for ladies, mothers with children, the handicapped and elders.

Only once have I been looked at sideways by what I assumed was a women who probably thought I was either Ted Bundy reincarnate, or she was a neo feminist. Gave me a dirty look and a growl as she went by. Then again she may have been having a bad day. Didn't hurt my feelings, kinda got a laugh out of it. Possibly she may have been one of the previous posters on this thread.

I was taught it was the proper thing to do. Some lessons die very slowly. Should it pass away as all good manners seem to be doing now a days?

Yes! I would help little old ladies cross the street. Yes! I would help a lady or gentleman in need of assistance changing a tire. Yes! I would help some one pick up a dropped object. Yes! I would help the young mother struggling to pass through a door while encumbered with child, stroller, baby basket or toddler. Yes! I would open the door and stand to the side to allow the passage of a handicapped person. Yes! I open the door for my wife. Yes! I would assist in all these situations and others, not expecting payment, thanks or even a nod, because that is what I am suppose to do.

And finally Yes! My daughter was taught to be respectfull of her elders, she will open the door and stand to the side to allow passage, she will render assistance when needed. So in my world it has nothing to do with male - female, strong verses weak, or the implied storng verses the implied weak.

Would I allow that one incedent to prevent me being polite and helpful to some people who really need assistance, nope. I will continue to be a polite member of society. Has nothing to do with being strong, has nothing to do with being a male.

 

[Ga.chickenman]

Do you guys open doors for girls?
Yes,I think it's just the right thing to do!!

 

[Ridgerunner]

Unless it would be rude to. I'm not going to knock someone out of the way to get to the door first, but if I can and it does not disrupt the flow of traffic, I will open the door and hold it for women, the elderly, families with young children, people on crutches, using a cane, or in a wheelchair, or people with their hands full. I may even hold the door for young, vigorous men when it is the appropriate thing to do. It is not about ability, just a common courtesy. I can open a door with my hands full if I need to but it is sure nice when someone helps me out. I do not generally consider it rude when someone does not open a door for someone else, just a courtesy when they do.

How someone accepts or rejects a common courtesy has nothing to do with whether or not I am a gentleman. My day does not end if someone fails to acknowledge a thank you. Someone rejecting my offer of a seat while waiting at a restaurant, on public transport, or wherever does not diminish the offer.

 

[Acrilex]

I think chivalry is a dying value. I hold the door for everyone, no matter their sex and age, because I will want them to do so when I'm older.

 

[Iowa Roo Mom]

My dear friend, who has just began to date again has met a wonderful man who opens doors for her, even the car door.

I've never once had any of the men I've dated open a door for me.

Do I think it's a nice gesture? Absolutley. Am I upset if they don't? Heck no.