does building a coop result in spousal arguements?

[Mrs. Green Thumbs]

see drumstick diva? Pie, and home made ice cream... ALWAYS works lol we will be expecting you... just pull round the back and roll up the sleeves

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[Mrs. Green Thumbs]

To the OP... maybe try approaching him in a constructive position, try to explain without hurting the ever expanding male ego. I find that just changing my tactics makes all the difference. Like yesterday. I had saved 140 bucks for the chicken's and some extra for grocery's. He had about the same for some bills. When it came time to see how much we both had in our wallet's he started to get huffy, he thought I was going to TAKE his money... so rather than do that I offered him mine.

I said "Here put so and so amount in a secret pocket for the bills and the rest we can play with when we go to get the coop" (we bought a coop yesterday YAY!!!) " And what ever is left we will go get the milk and bread. I still got what I needed, his cooperation, the coop paid for, bills paid, grocery's in the kitchen... he didn't have to part with his money and feel like I took away his manly-ness.

Works. Every. Time.

 

[wildorchid053]

arguments??? good thing we have been married so long or i would have killed him.. i told him what was needed and i designed it with all the measurements , what was needed and where to put it.. then he proceeds to disagree in the middle.. wanted to put ventilation holes with a 2" drill.. we had several disagreements over the next couple of weeks.. so finally i told him " IF YOU WOULD JUST JOIN BYC AND LEARN ALL THE THINGS I HAVE LEARNED YOU WOULDN'T LOOK SO ... STUPID TO ME!!!!" well guess who is now a member. and he is learning just fine.. i had never been so angry with him before but i just couldn't take it anymore ... yes we are still married and best of friends lol

 

[lildevil77]

My hubby barely knows the difference between a hammer and a screw driver but he still thinks he's Bob Villa. This will be mine and my 16yro sons project. At least we can't divorce each other lol We can't even hang a picture without a blow out, if we tried to do this together...it would end up in court without a doubt

 

[luckychickmom]

My husband and I live in a 95 year old historic home, which has required lots of work, and we have been married for almost 14 years. For some reason, however, the chicken coop has just about put us over the edge! The coop is 95% done at this point, and I am thankful...the last month has been miserable! We brooded the chicks in the house, and everytime I walked through the room and saw the massive amounts of dust, I thought, "Oh, man! I have to clean that up!" I'm sure that my husband would walk by and think, "No big deal...someone else will clean that up!" My motivation to have the chicks in the coop has far surpassed his interest in the project! Was I pushy? Heck, yes!!

 

[Chickenteacher]

does building a coop result in spousal arguements?

Only if he doesn't follow directions.......

 

[NellaBean]

I built a big brooder unit with my SO. Now my ex-SO. LOL, okay I admit the building of the brooder did not result in our breakup, but we sure did get into it while building.....men work differently. If stuff doesn't go the way I want, I either try something else or take a break and go back to it later. He would swear and yell and throw things and just keeping trying the same thing over and over and over. Men

Now, when my dad comes to visit he is the perfect guy to build with. He is bigger than me and not a great carpenter, so he just follows instructions and lifts the heavy things for me. His theory is "if you say so...you're the carpenter!". I liiiiike it.

 

[Mrs. Green Thumbs]

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UGH Aint that the truth... men do work differently than women. My DH would rather force something to work HIS way than take a moment to think about what he's doing and how to go about doing thing's in a more productive approach. He and I tend to split up when working on house stuff. He will go in and wash the growing pile of dishes and kick up some rock music while I go out back and do laundry while working in my garden. He will be done with the kitchen and be moving on to washing the car or dusting what ever he want's to do and I'll be sitting in my chair debating what I need to get done and how. lol. I think we each have positive aspect's to the way we work... just not exactly together

. While he get's a massive amount of work done, I tend to only have to do something once because I do it right the first time.

 

[domino7]

Wow, after reading this thread I'm GLAD my wife isn't into the chickens lol.

 

[paulandashia]

It does, and it WILL.
Any serious project should.
My Mama told me: "Arguments (good ones) are the "Glue that keeps the marriage together"."
Even though you sometimes want to choke the living daylights out of your Hubby.

I asked MY DH to start on the coop 2 years ago...
I did not want to buy Chickens without having a coop.

FINALLY, I ended up buying the CHICKENS, so that he would have the motivation to get STARTED.
It finally got done last week!

And OMGosh. I don't know HOW many times we discussed everything, it ended up an argument.
The roosts, the Chicken doors, the run, the gate, the windows, the Nest-Boxes, the entry door, you name it.
I wanted to HURT him. BADLY!

Now that everything is completed. All the Arguing was SOOOOOO Worth it!
The coop turned out MUCH better than I thought it would.

I do love that Stoopid, Stoopid man!