I am not harsh or punitive, and I don't believe in being a despot or taking pleasure (or emotion - ANY emotion, positive or negative) in punishment OR discipline. To me, it is just part of the responsibility of owning a dog, and I take no pleasure in it. It is just work, hard work. Like cleaning up poop and all the other work.
My point is, though, that if you think like a dog pack leader, you don't care who started it, but you know who is going to end it. That's you.
Shock collars are bad? Rigid thinking leads to tragedies and dogs in shelters.
I have never resorted to one. I start with a six week old puppy, taking away its food. Dog fights are rare in my home, even when other dogs visit(generally if anything starts, all I have to do is walk over to the dogs, and it stops before any drama occurs, I think mine may tell the new dog, 'Look out, 'cause when Mama ain't happy, ain't nobody happy'), but I also believe rather strongly, that one dog is easy, two dogs is still fairly easy, and three dogs is a whole heck of a lot of work.
But yes, I would rather an owner used a shock collar than got bit and disfigured for life or in pain for life, or sent a dog off to who the heck knows who, to join a fighting string or get run over by a car. That woman's arms were covered with scars from breaking up fights between her dogs. Electric collar, hallelujia. I've even seen The Dog Whisperer use one. He's no idiot. He isn't going to put his arm down and get it bit off, even for TV. They don't pay him enough.
A shock collar means a trainer can give a dog the shock more immediately and more timely, than any other sort of correction he might give. It is indispensable for serious problems.
The main problem with most corrections is they are not consistent enough and not soon enough. You hit the dog with a leash, or some other object? What about when you don't have it in your hand? Hitting a dog, to my way of thinking, is just about the most useless, ill timed, ineffective thing I've ever seen go on. The collar provides the owner with a way of making an immediate response. He doesn't even have to move toward the dog. Especially for a disabled owner, it is a crucially necessary tool.
People BELIEVE 'the dog knows he has done wrong' when he goes slinking away after he bites. He does not. He is just respoding to the person's body language, which his posture and way of moving change when he is angry. He is not 'sorry'. He is not 'contrite'. A dog does not have the sort of brain that allows 'sorry' to occur. He is just reacting to a person 's changed body language.
If the person were using his body language more effectively, or NOTICING when the DOG'S body language changed, WELL BEFORE the aggression, the aggression would not take place.
What the pain of the shock collar does, is it says, when you bite, you will hurt. It is very simple. The dog stops biting (or whatever behavior it is, snarling, showing teeth, whatever) because EVERY TIME he does it, HE HURTS.
I am disgusted with anyone who would use a shock collar to teach sit or down, or anything else. The ONLY time I can see it is justified, is for aggression. Dangereous situations call for drastic measures and a shock collar is drastic. It's as drastic as it gets.
It goes back to my dad's version of the Lord's Prayer...I can PM it to anyone interested, it is family viewing safe only with some paraphrasing.
You walk in the room, stand up tall, and every pair of limpid doggy eyes is looking up at you saying, 'hello master, what is on the list for today'.
And no, actually, it rarely works out for Mommy and Daddy to have his way and her way, and always arguing about what to do.
The dogs know it is like that, and to them it says, 'The position of pack leader is open, applicants may form a line and snarl here'.
Frankly, if it got to the point where I was arguing with my husband over how to discipline the dogs, I'd figure we were not a 'dog ready' family. I'd get rid of the dogs - all of them. Not good for the dogs or the marriage.