Do you have any friends or a church that you attend? You really need to get a driver's license first, as this will make things much easier in the long run. Maybe a friend could help you with this endeavor?
Then, look for ads for live-in help for the elderly. Some elderly folks really just need someone to make meals, do housekeeping and drive them to and from appointments/church/etc. Some apartment complexes have live-in managers and some hotels do the same.
You could advertise for help....someone to help you get your driver's license, carpool to a job with, carpool to school with, etc.
The situation you are in is heading absolutely nowhere....in more ways than I can describe. Do you want to raise your child in an environment like this? For her sake alone you need to be trying desparately to remove yourself and her to a place where she can grow and be loved without hatred and addiction as the foremost examples in her life.
I know you say your family do not have much money either, but do they have substance abuse~ and hatred for you? If not, I'd be moving home, even if I had to sleep on the floor. Don't worry about the animals....just run for you and your daughter's life and worry about getting more animals when you are more stable.
I know you feel like you love this man but it sounds as if the love is one-sided or that he can't provide and love for you because of his addictions. Either way, you need to look up information on AA and read up on enablers and their personality profiles. Could be you are just one of those folks who gravitate to people who need fixing up...you want to mother him, make him better, can see his hidden potential. I've been there....a few times, actually. I can tell you that, at his age, they rarely change and you will waste many years trying to help someone who is satisfied with their life. He is a product of his raisin' and you need to take care of you and yours. Good luck and keep us posted for any positive moves you've been able to manage!
Then, look for ads for live-in help for the elderly. Some elderly folks really just need someone to make meals, do housekeeping and drive them to and from appointments/church/etc. Some apartment complexes have live-in managers and some hotels do the same.
You could advertise for help....someone to help you get your driver's license, carpool to a job with, carpool to school with, etc.
The situation you are in is heading absolutely nowhere....in more ways than I can describe. Do you want to raise your child in an environment like this? For her sake alone you need to be trying desparately to remove yourself and her to a place where she can grow and be loved without hatred and addiction as the foremost examples in her life.
I know you say your family do not have much money either, but do they have substance abuse~ and hatred for you? If not, I'd be moving home, even if I had to sleep on the floor. Don't worry about the animals....just run for you and your daughter's life and worry about getting more animals when you are more stable.
I know you feel like you love this man but it sounds as if the love is one-sided or that he can't provide and love for you because of his addictions. Either way, you need to look up information on AA and read up on enablers and their personality profiles. Could be you are just one of those folks who gravitate to people who need fixing up...you want to mother him, make him better, can see his hidden potential. I've been there....a few times, actually. I can tell you that, at his age, they rarely change and you will waste many years trying to help someone who is satisfied with their life. He is a product of his raisin' and you need to take care of you and yours. Good luck and keep us posted for any positive moves you've been able to manage!
