Fake positivity free zone

[sweaterthebroodyrooster]

Could you please clarify where you draw the line between 'fake positivity' and 'real positivity'? Do you even think someone can really be positive, from your posts it seems you don't. I could easily be miss understanding you, which is why I ask for a clarifier.

 

[KingD]

Even when you're miserable and feeling down, you can still be positive can't you?
There's no such thing as fake positivity. You're either being positive or you're not.

Wait..am I being too cheerful for this thread?

 

[KingD]

Only if you allow it to.

Unfortunately some people will sadly not accept that.

 

[Chicalina]

OP, it sounds like you are a bit depressed tbh.

I agree with you about fake positivity. Being British and full of sarcasm, realism and hating BS, I scroll on by the ridiculous affirmations and 'hun culture' nonsense I read on SM.

But...people can give genuine good wishes to others as acts of kindness without it being fake. For example, when I commiserate with someone on here whose beloved pet chicken has died, I am being genuine and honest. Perhaps that reads as fake idk. But I going to say how sorry I am to hear about their loss, not some boll**ks about rainbow bridges and angels etc. The eye roll emoji is far too inadequate!

Being a realist and a pessimist is a fine line. Viewing the world in a generally negative light can be draining and miserable (hence me asking about depression).

 

[CarpCharacin]

Could you please clarify where you draw the line between 'fake positivity' and 'real positivity'? Do you even think someone can really be positive, from your posts it seems you don't. I could easily be miss understanding you, which is why I ask for a clarifier.

There's a difference between realistic optimism and delusional optimism.

 

[CarpCharacin]

Unfortunately some people will sadly not accept that.

Because it's false. There are many, many, many examples of entirely uncontrollable life circumstances rendering one's life shitty. Some people recover, and some don't. Those who don't shouldn't be automatically blamed for it, as a substantial portion of the variance in personality is heritable and providing a case study of someone recovering from an equally bad or worse situation definitely doesn't prove that anyone could do it. Many individuals with better circumstances refuse to accept this, as doing so would potentially lead to a grimmer worldview.

 

[CarpCharacin]

But...people can give genuine good wishes to others as acts of kindness without it being fake. For example, when I commiserate with someone on here whose beloved pet chicken has died, I am being genuine and honest. Perhaps that reads as fake idk. But I going to say how sorry I am to hear about their loss, not some boll**ks about rainbow bridges and angels etc. The eye roll emoji is far too inadequate!

I know that at least some people can be genuinely kind. I think the BS can generally be divided into two categories: stuff that is knowingly fake and said by people who are trying to make themselves look good, and stuff that's genuinely believed but grossly unrealistic.

 

[sweaterthebroodyrooster]

Because it's false. There are many, many, many examples of entirely uncontrollable life circumstances rendering one's life shitty. Some people recover, and some don't. Those who don't shouldn't be automatically blamed for it, as a substantial portion of the variance in personality is heritable and providing a case study of someone recovering from an equally bad or worse situation definitely doesn't prove that anyone could do it. Many individuals with better circumstances refuse to accept this, as doing so would potentially lead to a grimmer worldview.

You're in the USA right?

 

[CarpCharacin]

You're in the USA right?

Yeah.

 

[sweaterthebroodyrooster]

Yeah.

Okay, yeah that opinion fits modern day America perfectly.