My mother didn't know what she was doing. She tried to help but just couldn't and after fifteen years of 24/7 stress because everyday was a sobbing nightmare and I worked through Thanksgiving more than once (and summer every year), I now have chronic associated stress and I actually get physically ill whenever I do things similar to what I had to do for school...

Which sounds super dramatic.

We are working on it. My husband is so great and now I'm in an environment where I don't have to be stressed.