Folks getting rid of my chickens!!

[Leslo5831]

Even if you were a legal tenent, the landowner can decide whether or not to allow animals on the property. Just because you are paying rent and living there, doesn't mean you don't need permisson for pets

And I had permission for pets but she retracted the permission because I simply won’t allow her to have a say so on which primary doctor I wish to have

 

[Leslo5831]

This is a sad situation. Is it possible that you can find another long term rental, or place to stay with your chickens?
If not, try to have a talk with her. I don't know whats going on with your health, but maybe explain to her why you disagree? Would it be possible to have a conversation and try to get her to see your point of view? Maybe tell her that her threatening your chickens is only pushing you away, and not helping the situation. Often times this is easier said then done, as I of course no nothing about your situation.
I think that if its possible to have a conversation with her about the best way to handle the situation would be the best course of action here. It is her property, so she has rights to evict you or ask you to remove the chickens if she wants. Its a tough problem, I'm sorry your having to deal with this.

Oh I’ve tried for years to talk to her but she’s not one to talk to her children. I’m an adult I’m 19 and the only reason I’m stuck at home is because of the lack of job in the area. She doesn’t like chickens and allowed me to have chickens and they have their own area far away from the house and out of view but recently shes gotten mad at me because I won’t let her choose which doctor will be my doctor and she’s made a custom of holding my pets over my head with the threat of getting rid of them even tho she doesn’t own them or pay for them in any way. Today I stood my ground on not letting her get her way and now she’s actually trying to give them away. I’m working out a place if my own with my father but it’s up in the air and both me and my father are hoping it will blow over. Unfortunately I’m not afforded the same respect as an adult because according to my mother I’m only an adult in her eyes when it’s convenient. Most of the time I’m treated like the house maid and she won’t even let me work on a field of my choice. She had gotten me fired from jobs simply because she doesn’t want me to work there or will take away my car so that I cant work delivery because she doesn’t want her daughter doing that. It’s truly a toxic household and I’m stilling try to leave but she makes it hard denying me even basic rights. So actually talking to her about how she’s driving me away won’t even work with her. I’ve actually already made it a point to never talk to her ever again once I’m gone but for now because I’m living at home she won’t even let me go to college unless she’s taking me god forbid my partner takes me. It’s truly a shit show and she won’t even let me work my delivery job because she simply won’t let me that’s the ****ed up part

 

[TropicalBabies]

Ugh, sounds like a tuff situation but sounds like mom- as difficult as she may be right now- is coming from a place of love. Maybe find some middle ground with her- rehome a few chickens, look at you Dr. Options together and maybe find one you both like. As a mother of older children myself I need my kids to meet me 1/2 sometimes. Giving an inch can be a mile in a mother's eyes. Mom sounds like she is stressed and worried as much as you are. I really hope you can extend a branch and hear what she is saying. Also, keep putting one foot in front of the other and trudge your road to happy destiny. Stay safe and well and smart.

 

[Leslo5831]

Ugh, sounds like a tuff situation but sounds like mom- as difficult as she may be right now- is coming from a place of love. Maybe find some middle ground with her- rehome a few chickens, look at you Dr. Options together and maybe find one you both like. As a mother of older children myself I need my kids to meet me 1/2 sometimes. Giving an inch can be a mile in a mother's eyes. Mom sounds like she is stressed and worried as much as you are. I really hope you can extend a branch and hear what she is saying. Also, keep putting one foot in front of the other and trudge your road to happy destiny. Stay safe and well and smart.

As much as I want to give it to you how much she loves me but unfortunately it’s overwhelmed by her abusive tactics. She’s actually hit me before and the only reason I don’t call the cops is because I have no where else to go I rather be hit than be on the streets. Those chickens are my life’s work and the only thing I have in this world. And if my mother were to actually take the time to read this and understand she would still call me a brat and a cry baby simply because I won’t do what she wants. She has actually talked shit about her own daughter in front of me. Talking about how much of a brat I am and how ungrateful I am. And god forbid I actually stand up for myself and I end up getting slap in the face. The only reason that didn’t happen today when I stood my ground on which doctor I want was because there were people around. She keeps up a image of a born again Christian and she won’t let her friends see herhit her daughter over a disagreement. She instead threw my bag on the ground instead of hitting me and even then she got dirty looks from her friends because she showed her true colors to them.

 

[DParker75089]

It means she’s going to charge me rent if I don’t find a job soon unfortunately I got laid off because of COVID and being freshly out of high school by three months it’s hard finding a job in the area

OK, so at the moment there is no "tenant and landlord" relationship. You're just living at home and this is 100% a "Her house, her rules" situation.

 

[DParker75089]

even tho she doesn’t own them or pay for them in any way

Who is paying for the property on which they're living?

 

[TropicalBabies]

As much as I want to give it to you how much she loves me but unfortunately it’s overwhelmed by her abusive tactics. She’s actually hit me before and the only reason I don’t call the cops is because I have no where else to go I rather be hit than be on the streets. Those chickens are my life’s work and the only thing I have in this world. And if my mother were to actually take the time to read this and understand she would still call me a brat and a cry baby simply because I won’t do what she wants. She has actually talked shit about her own daughter in front of me. Talking about how much of a brat I am and how ungrateful I am. And god forbid I actually stand up for myself and I end up getting slap in the face. The only reason that didn’t happen today when I stood my ground on which doctor I want was because there were people around. She keeps up a image of a born again Christian and she won’t let her friends see herhit her daughter over a disagreement. She instead threw my bag on the ground instead of hitting me and even then she got dirty looks from her friends because she showed her true colors to them.

I am so sorry. You don't deserve to be in an abusive situation. Hitting and name calling are unexceptable especially from a mother. My heart goes out to you
Do you have programs over there like women helping women, or abuse hotlines? You don't need to tell on your mom (at this point) but you can get a sounding board and options. So you are not so alone with this big problem. At the very least you can get some stuff off of your chest with a empathetic and sympathec ear. In my state I can find them at the beginning of the phone book- or Google.
How many chickens do you have? Do you have any trusted adult friends? Father? Aunt?

 

[Leslo5831]

I am so sorry. You don't deserve to be in an abusive situation. Hitting and name calling are unexceptable especially from a mother. My heart goes out to you
Do you have programs over there like women helping women, or abuse hotlines? You don't need to tell on your mom (at this point) but you can get a sounding board and options. So you are not so alone with this big problem. At the very least you can get some stuff off of your chest with a empathetic and sympathec ear. In my state I can find them at the beginning of the phone book- or Google.
How many chickens do you have? Do you have any trusted adult friends? Father? Aunt?

I have my father but he doesn’t have a room for me at his house at the moment and my partner is still living with his folks. I do talk to my father a lot and earlier he picked me up and took me to the doctor that I wanted to see so that issue was resolved but I’m still in the iffy zone when it comes to my mother getting rid of my chickens. I have 19 chickens

 

[TropicalBabies]

I have my father but he doesn’t have a room for me at his house at the moment and my partner is still living with his folks. I do talk to my father a lot and earlier he picked me up and took me to the doctor that I wanted to see so that issue was resolved but I’m still in the iffy zone when it comes to my mother getting rid of my chickens. I have 19 chickens

I am glad your dad stepped in and took you. That sounds wonderful and loving.
Well, if I were to look at this objectively I'd say you need to get yourself somewhere safe and sane 1st off. Even if it is for a cooling off period. Parents are not perfect by any means, though most try to do their best. Unfortunately high end sight is 20/20 and we have no idea of the damage we do until it is to late. Best advice I was ever given was to learn to keep my mouth shut and quit digging. It has made it easier to walk away rather than be engaged in crap.
Second would be your chickens. If you rehome or find a place you are in control of their outcome. That to me would be much better than letting her do it because you love them and are attached. As a chicken person myself- I would pay you money and give you a buy back option hearing your story- no need to tell anyone all of your story- just you can not house them at the moment but would like to buy them back when you are settled. They can enjoy eggs till then. Beats them getting scattered to the wind with who knows who and no possibilities. This could be a win, win because your mom could A, see an effort on your part. B, realized she has lost control of her leverage. May even do some soul searching at that point- we can hope. C, put you in control of their outcome and buy you some freedom.

 

[Weeg]

I am glad your dad stepped in and took you. That sounds wonderful and loving.
Well, if I were to look at this objectively I'd say you need to get yourself somewhere safe and sane 1st off. Even if it is for a cooling off period. Parents are not perfect by any means, though most try to do their best. Unfortunately high end sight is 20/20 and we have no idea of the damage we do until it is to late. Best advice I was ever given was to learn to keep my mouth shut and quit digging. It has made it easier to walk away rather than be engaged in crap.
Second would be your chickens. If you rehome or find a place you are in control of their outcome. That to me would be much better than letting her do it because you love them and are attached. As a chicken person myself- I would pay you money and give you a buy back option hearing your story- no need to tell anyone all of your story- just you can not house them at the moment but would like to buy them back when you are settled. They can enjoy eggs till then. Beats them getting scattered to the wind with who knows who and no possibilities. This could be a win, win because your mom could A, see an effort on your part. B, realized she has lost control of her leverage. May even do some soul searching at that point- we can hope. C, put you in control of their outcome and buy you some freedom.

This is a really good idea. I definitely agree.