Folks getting rid of my chickens!!

[DonyaQuick]

I was going to contact my neighbor also a chicken keeper to ask if he can have them and I’d pay for the food I have done that in the past before when I was sick but I usually did that with a family member but right now because of covid keeping in touch with scared relatives is hard on top of the fact that my mom will have a say so in who goes where. I also had a feeling the few laws that are here wouldn’t do that much good especially with the short notice and job lacking ultimately I’ll try to get that leverage she has over me off and work out me moving to my dads within the next month or sooner

That sounds like a good plan!

 

[TropicalBabies]

I was actually thinking of doing the buy back method with my neighbor because we have traded chickens in the past and I’ll shoot him a text to see what we can work out but in the mean time I’m still talking to my father about the housing situation because it’s not the first time I had to leave cuz of how my mom has acted. Before when I had a job I was living with my father instead of my moms but when covid hit my father along with my step mom got covid and because of what my work required( I’m a caretaker of the elderly) I had to leave immediately and every since then I’ve been here at my moms stuck and my father had to move to a smaller house cuz of the lack of work

I really hope this works.

I know a gal pretty well, my old neighbor, fairly nice to strangers usually but brutal to her family. Possibly bipolar may be her thing, so she can't help it till she gets medicated.. also,, hate to say it but midlife hormones can have a lot to do with behavior.. Hard to explain the mood swings and highs and lows. Anyway, the reason I bring it up is she does similar to her kids. She harasses the geezers out of them and when she does not get her way she yells and threatens to throw them out in a fit of anger. It is really hard on the kids. These kids are not freeloaders, slackers or loafers. They are wonderful, college educated w/ work. Housing is tight and expensive here and their dad build that big house with his hands for them too. With that said, it was the best thing for them to finally get away from her abuse. Tread as lightly and as best you can while there, try that mouth shut thing, I swear it works wonders ♡. Best of luck to you- this too shall pass. You have a big beautiful life in front of you. Don't let this dictate it- rather use it to propel you into your best, strongest, kindest self.

 

[TropicalBabies]

Your dad will likely have rules too. You will follow yourself wherever you go

I have rules at my house too. I just don't fly off the handle, verbally abuse my kids and threaten to throw them out over rubbish or when they are most vulnerable during a pandemic. Sure, no one is perfect- but I am the adult and I signed up to protect, guide and be the best example and teacher to my kids that I possibly can. That is a lifelong commitment.
I was also emancipated at 15yo and never looked back. Life is hard, it is important to be kind.

 

[IdyllwildAcres]

I just don't fly off the handle, verbally abuse my kids and threaten to throw them out over rubbish

We are only hearing one side of the story here.

 

[TropicalBabies]

We are only hearing one side of the story here.

Absolutely, so give the benefit of the doubt and guide appropriately. Taking the opposite or the side of an adult stranger that has not reached out, that could potentially be an abuser- wait, IS an abuser if she hits and threatens. There are other ways to do things. Adult ways. Adult PARENT ways.
Hey, I raised 3 kids on my own. I know what ditching school is like, coming home to a mess, sleeping in, back talking a parent is. Been there, done that. Tuff love is good in the right situation, but I will not condone abuse on anybodys part. Certainly not just for slack chores or lack of payment. Is mom going to rent the room out to anybody? Is she loosing income or just taking out frustrations on the smaller weaker one who she has over a barrel during a pandemic. I'd rather take OP at her (?) word. I'm sure she would rather not be reaching out to strangers for advice but I think OP smart and strong to do it.

 

[BjAngel]

Mothers are forever man you definitely should find a way to live together with the chickens

 

[Hopeful homesteader]

This sounds a lot like my mom and I when I was your age except she always threatened to take my car. The deal was if I graduated she'd buy me a car so being the youngest of 5 I was the only one that got the car. Being the youngest I was always punished for the errors of my older siblings, she somehow thought being stricter on me was protecting me but it just built a grudge from unfairness. Anyway, I spent my time silent and I can tell you it doesn't work, just makes her think she has more control over you. As things progressed physically I couldn't take it anymore and fought back, it's not something I'm proud of but it worked and put her in her place. There is a big difference between moms house her rules and abuse which should never be tolerated and I advise moving asap. I lived woth my dad for a while too while I went to college but she was still way too overbearing trying to dictate my life. After graduating college I left the state with my now husband and that drove the message home that I'm grown and she has no say in anything and she finally stopped all the nonsense and we can have normal conversation now with occasional visits without shtf. I don't have any advice on the chickens but the buy back option others mentioned sounds like the best avenue. Another bit of advice is to approach her when she's calm and communicate, in the heat of the argument she won't hear you and definitely have a friend with you to keep her from acting out since she wants to hide it from others, a group is your safety net when dealing with an abusive person. I tell my daughter's all the time, I don't care if your on your period, pregnant, in menopause, or just having a bad day, there is never an excuse to treat others in a way you wouldn't want to be treated and I live by setting the example. Sorry this turned out so long, I will pray for you and your mother, I hope you guy's can mend your relationship and I agree some distance between your residence is a must even if it's your dads couch, this sounds like an unstable environment for anyone to live in.

 

[saysfaa]

You might recheck the job market. The lack of jobs due to covid ended across much of country when businesses reopened. In many places, finding people willing to work is a serious problem. Laredo may be an anomaly; it happens.
On the other hand, the car wash there is offering $15 an hour, and Indeed shows a lot of listings with "urgent", "multiple", and "ongoing".

 

[Chickassan]

Two words will get you through life with a difficult mother 'O.k mom'.
You don't have to mean those words you just have to say them.
Promise, you'll hate it but it will save you so much irritation in the grand scheme of things.

 

[Leslo5831]

You might recheck the job market. The lack of jobs due to covid ended across much of country when businesses reopened. In many places, finding people willing to work is a serious problem. Laredo may be an anomaly; it happens.
On the other hand, the car wash there is offering $15 an hour, and Indeed shows a lot of listings with "urgent", "multiple", and "ongoing".

She actually won’t let me get a job unless she approves of it meaning I need to get hired by an employer she likes