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[ntiveheart]

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I do spank, but I'll be darned if anyone else is going to spank my kids.

a big fat AMEN!

 

[beak]

I don't quite understand all the postings stating "I can tell the kids that have never been spanked, they run around like little monsters". Children running around like monsters is a parenting issue, not a spanking issue. If you feel that the only way to control a child is to spank them than you may want to take some parenting classes. Has it occurred to any body that children that are spanked as a means of control know you can't spank them at the store so they are free to act up. Children don't tend to think ahead. They are spontaneous. So next time you see kids running around Safeway out of control you are probably looking at kids that will get spanked when they get home. Then next time they go to Safeway they will terrorize the aisles again. As far as the hooligans you see. Those are most likely the result of kids that got spanked but didn't ever get loved.

I'm sure there are a lot of badly disciplined kids that never got spanked. There are also a lot of badly disciplined kids that did get spanked. I think most people that complain about kids not getting the belt enough do so because they inflict pain on their kids and feel bad about it. But they do it because they don't know what else to do. Try Googling Love and Logic. They teach classes around the country. You might learn something.

 

[consdrs]

mom'sfolly :

I suspect it is just another Troll, looking for entertainment.

Ditto

Like you would need to post a "wanted" add to find something to scare your kid straight. My dad was quite ingenious in finding things just laying about the house and perhaps even wearing it as clothing.

troll message to garner entertainment, look how many posts this has recieved in a short amount of time...

Connie​

 

[Buff Hooligans]

My first thought was that they had a canoe or kayak and lost or broke the paddle that came with it. I never would have thought it was for a spanking paddle.

 

[agnes_day]

there is a truck stop by my house that for whatever reason sells paddles..they have holes in them and it has "attitude adjuster" ingrained on the side.

 

[melissastraka]

I choose to spank my children and i am happy to say so. BUT there is a fine line between spank and abuse. I have no problem popping my children on the backside from time to time but i will never use a stick or board, belt or spoon. I have chased them through the house with a spoon but i never have used it. All i have to do is open the spoon drawer and they run.

I am a stay at home mom. My TV is off from 9am till AFTER dinner. My children (who are old enough) have regular chores everyday. If it is not raining or under 55 degrees out, they are outside. No ifs ands or butts about it. 2 of my kids go to school. T-bell goes from 12-3 so i can spend tons of time with her everyday. Chris goes all day and i spend as much time with him as i can since he is in school all day. With that said, I can also take my 6 kids between 8 and 4 months to walmart or safeway by myself. I dont need anyone to come and "help" me watch the kids. My children know what is expected of them and i will pop them in public if they step out of line. I am not strict but i do expect my children to use manners and be polite at all times.

I agree that parents dont spend enough time with their kids anymore. There are so many distractions with all the new technology. Between computers, TV, I-pods, Wii's and everything else it seems that many people are taking the easy way of parenting. These are the children that are out of control and lack discipline. My family owns a logging company and we have seen time and time again that kids my age expect more money for little work.

 

[chiknhut]

You have to instill values,respect, cause and effect with kids or paddlings will get you no where. Yes I have paddled mine and will again if necessary. I wouldn't have posted that on Freecycle but I have heard phrases as this "we'll wear it out trying!" or "I will die trying" but it really didn't mean they were going to do it.

 

[mountaintopchicken]

I have to say I just don't understand why parents think physical punishment is necessary. I was never spanked. I was never even grounded. My mother would simply talk to me. And believe me, I listened. I loved her, respected her, and would feel terrible if I disappointed her.

My friends who got spanking and groundings and physical threats were much worse behaved than I was. They were the ones trying to get me to do bad things, like experiment with cigarettes. My mother worked full time, so I was home by myself from the time I got home from school until the time she got home from work. I could have done awful things with all of the freedom I had. But the 'bad' things I did included things like getting a friend to sneak a truck load of horse manure into the yard so I could use it on my garden in highschool (mom didn't like the smell of manure). Not even that bad, really.

I have seen kids chased about the house with a wooden spoon by their mother. What it looks like to me: an out of control adult, terrified kids, no calm communication. Oh, and no change in behavior from the kids. They might be cowed for an hour or two, but then they go right back to being out of control.

I don't train my dog with hitting either - I try to be calm and fair. And he comes when called, pulls a cart, does tricks, sits and waits and the door until I say "o.k." to go outside... and he doesn't cower when I raise my hand, the way some dogs who are trained with hitting do. That's the kind of relationship I like, with kids or dogs - fun, fair, firm when necessary and emphasizing strong communication.

 

[horsejody]

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Kids aren't stupid (at least mine weren't). You might want to give them a little more credit. Mine knew that if they acted up in the store they would get into trouble there or at home (or both). Mine were spanked, but not beaten. They came out pretty good, and we were often complimented on their manners when they were kids. Please don't insinuate that parent s that spank (not beat) need parenting classes.

 

[agnes_day]

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why bother threatening them though, if you arent going to follow through? sooner or later, they will call your bluff and they wont believe a thing you say if you dont back it up.