Friends? Does anyone have TRUE ones? Venting!

[I have WHAT in my yard?]

My best friend from college and I have had a rough road some years. We have both pulled back at some points. One of the things that kept it going was when one or the other of us pulled back the one that got left didn't just dump the other. I'm not making sense.

When I got married my husband became my best friend. He truly is and of course he gets much more of my attention than she does. At first she resented that and she said a few hurtful things. But, we worked it out. When I had kids we did it again.

And she has made new friends and has had new relationships and we ride it out. When she had a BF that I could not stand the relationship took another bumpy spell because I told ehr I thought he was bad news. (He was, but we had to ride out the storm.)

If this friend is your best friend give her some space. Disliking all of your animals may actually be something else. Is she married? Kids??

 

[lorieMN]

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this is sooo true...most friends I have found will throw you under the bus if it works in their favore..not that I am not friends with them anymore,,I am,,but I just am careful about not really going out of my way for them..my true friend is my hubby..

 

[chickensioux]

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I just found out about Morganton. I will surely pass along the info and we will both do everything possible to be there. Thank you for the kind words too.

 

[vicki2x2]

I don't think you have too many animals, maybe not enough, as those are your true friends! It is hard, I think, for non animal lovers to understand our passion, but then, I totally don't get some of theirs and don't make fun of them, so that is no excuse. Hmmm, I love animals, children, photography (usually of animals or my children) and they love cold, hard plastic or metal things that don't love them back, but we are the weird ones??? I don't think so. That is what is so great about BYC, so many like minded friends! Sorry your "friend" was such a loser, concentrate on your real friends, they won't let you down.

 

[Rammy]

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I dont get close to anyone for the same reasons mostly. Seems whenever I trust someone, they screw me over or take advantage of me, so I stay single and alone. When someone wants to get close to me, I back up and close up. Ive learned to be very distrustful of people over the years.


Rammy

 

[Rammy]

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This was brought up. I asked "Are my animals not taken care of?" She said yes. "Am I breaking any rules, regs or covenants?" She said no. Than the number of animals I have has no bearing on this. I was an Animal Health Tech (vet tech) for years. My animals are well fed, well housed, cleaned, taken to the vet when needed (any of them), and I even get necropsys done if an animal dies unexplained. Yes, I do have alot of animals compared to some, not as many as others. No, hoarding is not the issue.

Sounds to me like you take great care of them so I dont understand her problem with how many animals you have. Your the one taking care of them, not her. I think she has deeper issues that have nothing to do with the animals and is using that as an excuse to end the freindship. Its not like you were asking her to help you take care of them or anything. I would be a little ticked off too if someone I trusted and thought of as a freind told me what she told you.


Rammy

 

[noodleroo]

Sometimes people come into our lives for a little while and move on. That's just how it is. Friends don't always grow in the same direction. Appreciate her for the times she was a good friend to you and wish her the best.

Isn't it interesting that animals pretty much stick to their basic nature their whole lives. That's probably why I prefer their company most of the time...

 

[PineappleMama]

And this person wonders why you spend so much time with 'animals' when this is the type of behavior you see from human friends??

Their loss.

 

[newchickgal]

Chckensioux, I would love to have as many animals as you have, I'm envious! We only have two dogs and 6 baby chicks. Actually the one dog is 5 rolled up into one. We aren't sure of her mixture but I just read a book about a gal that had two border terriers, and I swear my Jazzy has some of that in her! But we love her anyway.

It's hard when a friend moves on. I still miss my best friend from high school. She moved on and I don't know why. But I guess they come and they go. Anyway, I'm rooten for ya, we're all in this together.

 

[ranchhand]

On an different take? I had a very close friend finally tell me that she didn't enjoy talking to me as much anymore, because all I ever talked about was chickens, dogs and cats. I was boring her senseless without knowing it.

I widened my world once I realized how small it had become!