Friends? Does anyone have TRUE ones? Venting!

[chickensioux]

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I understand this. I rarely talked about my animals with her cuz she usually seemed disinterested. For years she only heard about a loss or a new one. After a while even that seemed too much so I quit that. It's kind of how the conversation started today. I brought up the fact that I didn't feel as close to her and couldn't tell her "anything" anymore......and so it went downhill from there.

 

[Laurajean]

I keep reading this thread and find myself speechless. If she admitted that your animals are healthy and cared for, I just don't understand what her problem is. It's none of her business, unless you are neglecting or abusing them. I just don't get people like this. All I can say is she obviously isn't a real friend, but it's just so disturbing. Why do people feel the need to impose THEIR views on things upon us?

Half the reason I find such joy in my animals is this very reason: Our pets don't judge us.

I'm sorry she hurt you that way. It's just so wrong and short sighted.

 

[chickensioux]

Oh and after thinking about this allllllllllllll day, I just remembered something, and here's the kicker, she never failed to come and get free eggs each week.

 

[incubatingisfun]

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sorry to here that i had friend i thought was a true friend. me and him where friends kindergarten-7th but then a new kid came to town and he totaly changed his personality and started doing bad stuff so we just stopped hanging out.I was bummed out for a long time but a found a new friend and he is a true friend.Hope it gets better for you

 

[The Lisser]

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I just found out about Morganton. I will surely pass along the info and we will both do everything possible to be there. Thank you for the kind words too.

My neighbor and I have arranged to take off work to go to that show! More chicken-crazy BYC's on the way!

Hope to see you there!

 

[Tala]

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ah, a user

bleh

 

[redhen]

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ah, a user

bleh

Yep... your animals are good enough for her to get free eggs from each week though....
Shes wasnt ever a true friend...i'm sorry. But you didnt really lose anything, IMO.

 

[feather and mountain man]

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Look at it like this. My mom always told me this when I had a friend that she thought was taking advantage of my kindness. "You can do better than her" you don't need friends like that. I know it hurts now and angers you now but in time you will think to yourself "I deserve better than that."

 

[Mattemma]

I have 2 left and they live over an hour from me.Lucky if I see them once a year,but we do email and phone once in a while.

My one friend will tend to all animalsShe even had possums come into her home.She knows I dispatch animals that she would care for.She still likes me,and I still like her.We have different lives and different needs.We can agree to disagree on things.Lol, I remember when I asked her about santa,,because it had become an issue in my kids school.She is for santa and I am not.We discussed it and all is well dispite our differences.

I would talk more with your friend.Do they think you are a hoarder or that you spend your last penny on animals rather than yourself/family? Maybe they are just grossed out by animals or prefer to get all their food at the store,and not thing about where it really comes from.

I would just want to know what the issue really was even though it would probably never *repair* the friendship.Hope you find people to be with that are kinder to you.

 

[chickensioux]

Today is a new day everyone. Thanks you all for all of the kind words and insights. After really thinking about nothing else yesterday and reading all of your kind responses, I am fine with the situation. Her words were hurtful and I'm not sure, no I know, I won't forget what was said but I will let go of it. I am 51 years old and I can't spend another minute trying to figure other people out. I hope she is happy with her choices. So that being said....

Depression loses it's power when fresh vision pierces the darkness. ~ Peter Sinclair

And truly with all of my BYC friends, a fresh vision is what I have. BYCers are like stars, you can't always see them but you always know they are there. Thanks everyone.