Fuzzy's Farm

[fuzzybutt love]

I put on a nice sweater, visited with family, ate toooooo much! Was nice to see my family again. Did anyone try the cranberry mold? Stuff is addictive!

Sorry for venting, was not a good morning. I don't know if he will force me out, but the gist of it is that although we've been together so long we do better living seperate. Holidays and special occasions bring out the worst. I need to find a roomie that likes birds, find a place to rent that will allow them! Or get a rent to own, which is what i really want/ need for my sanity. I can't do it alone, not on part time. Come spring i had thought of cross training at another of their facilities, getting more hours. Then i would have more options! But really i don't want to live alone, i did it before off and on but it gets too quiet sometimes.

 

[silver1313]

i hope things get better fuzzy....

it has been crazy hectic today but so nice having my sis and her family and my dad here .... ive missed them like crazy and it helped take the missing monster down a level or two ... we've talked most of the day and he just got off the phone to go to bed .....

Hope everyone had a decent meal and some fun times at least


HAppy Thanksgiving dear friends ...

 

[Gigiintheforest]

So sorry you had a bad day Fuzzy. Wish I could help.

Great thanksgiving here but I'm exhausted. DH has fallen asleep on the couch and I'm waiting for my dad and his BF to come back from the casino. Want to go to bed. Even though I love my dad and Helen I'll be glad to get back to normal when they leave tomorrow - LOL!

Happy Thanksgiving everyone. I've been fortunate to be part of this group.

 

[NovaAman]

I got another mini egg today! WOOT WOOT! LOL. Boy did she have a fit after she laid her egg too! LOL

I have my little Pat out for a bit in the run after all the other birds were up on the roost. I took him out there with me when I went to check that everyone was where they needed. He got to walk about in the leave for a while, while I filled the waterer up, swished the feed pans around to get the feed out of the holes. Since switching to gamebird pellets, they do not come out as easy as the crumbles. I might need to expand the holes a little. Well anyway, he's starting to get around a lot better. He still needs protection from the big birds however. Roger Jr. and Loralie, the not so sweet faverolle hen, want to pick on him. Well anyway, he's actually trying to run.

On a bad note, the black silkie chick who stays with Skeeter in the nest box, has a leg injurie. It is not broken, least ways, I do not feel a break. I am not sure if it is a sprain or a slipped tendon from running away from one of the other birds, or if he got injured when Criptoe gets in the nest box with Skeeter. She is a big clutz of a chicken, and has broken eggs shortly after laying them because of her feet... I think I might have to either make a box that is just big enough for him, with feed and water right close so he doesn't have to move far to get him healed, keep him from walking... Or I am going to have to do the cull. I have no idea how to tell if it is a slipped tendon. The leg isn't sticking out to the side. When I feel down it, they both seem straight... Sheesh... I don't want to have to cull him/her. I think it is a her, but I refer to it as a he...cuz I am not sure. Oh... man...

 

[BackyardFarmMom]

Happy thanksgiving!

We had a good day and a good meal!

My son has had a cough for a while and some days are better than others. More good days then bad and he is on antibiotics...
Well, today he skipped dinner for a nap and refused to eat anything but a few bites of turkey, a popcicle, and half a bowl of M&Ms...
He got home and threw it all up.
I am not sure if it is fro the snot running down his throat or the tummy full of junk... or maybe both.
He is sleeping now, but I made up the other little bed in his room just in case I have to sleep in there tonight.
Yes, I will sleep in a toddler bed if I have to.

I know I hate throwing up... and how sore my back is afterward
Poor little man.



Fuzzy...I wish we were close... I would get a place with you in a heartbeat
BF and I do better seperate too.
We moved in together too early and started a family way too soon too.
We manage okay though I guess
Most of the time he makes me want to rip my hair out...

 

[NovaAman]

The pretty weather is over... BUT WAIT! I am in Michigan, it'll be back...

Fuzzy, If you have to move, and you find that you need to take your birds somewhere else, you need to know you can bring them here until you are settled and you can take them where you are. I want you to know that.

Relationships are like a good suit that is a good fit when you buy it. A good suit will have clean lines that are timeless. Yes there is always the possibility of alteration in the future, rents that need mending... A good suit you do not give up on unless it no longer fits, mending is an option that is difficult and leaves the suit in ill repair, barely serviceable... Sometimes, no matter if you love it, you just got to let it go.

My marriage to my ex was like that. We got together senior year in highschool. May 1992. Married July 1994, Divorced July 2005 just days before our 11th anniversary. We were smart enough to call it quits and stop trying to make it work. We were miserable more than we were happy. I wanted to go one way, I am more earthy. He was another, more visual, needs to prove his success. He has a big pretty house in a neighborhood of manicured lawns. He has a brand new jeep, that big one... commander I think it is... and has debt up to his eyeballs in order to keep up with the joneses and no kids. Me, I have a small house that fits my income. I have a set of boys who make me laugh and mad and proud and frustrated. I have my chickens, and I grow a bit of food. I have a job that just pays the bills. I have a car that isn't the best, but keeps me going to work. On occassion, I have biscuits and gravy... and I am not talking for breakfast. BUT we are still friends after everything. Not a lot of couples can say that. We didn't wait till our relationship became hell. We didn't have kids that we were trying to hold it together for. Even now, with John, we are smart enough to know that yes, we care about each other, but we know that we are not GOOD TOGETHER. Even now, his living here, drives us both nuts, but he was going to be homeless, and I wasn't going to ever have my boys say I let their dad live in the homeless shelter when he was down and out. He has his own space here. BUT we have kids together... If we were TOGETHER our kids would see the wrong way a relationship would be. They wouldn't see a loving relationship where we are both on the same page and stand together. A marriage can be a constant war with bouts of cease fire, or a constant one with bouts of disagreement. I'd rather have the second. I also will never have a boyfriend as long as my boys are minors.

Some people can blend families together and live happily ever after, persay... I am not willing to risk that. Both my sisters chose men over their kids. EVEN AFTER THE KIDS SAID NO! My older sisters kids have nothing really to do with her. The younger sister had her daughter living with me for a year while they came to terms. Its been two and a half years since her hubby died, and she's been with this new guy for two. Her daughter is only just starting to get along with her new boyfriend, because of a conversation I had with her. Learn to get along while she's there, until she is old enough to move out on her own, and learns to take care of herself, her house, job,bills, and car, or goes OFF to college. She's now learning the art of manipulation... Yup. A classic woman in the making.

I have several friends who've jumped into new relations constantly with their kids trailing behind, and now complain that their kids go through BF/GF like water... Or are in violent relationships just like what their parents had... Or complain all the time how the step parent doesn't treat their kids the same... I do not want that. My kids come first. Their dad may not be perfect, hell I am not perfect. But I am not going to risk subjecting them to one that is worse, jumping in and out of relationships looking for Mr. Right, cuz they, the kids, only get hurt more. God Bless those blended families that work. Cuz it surely aint a Brady Bunch Special for most of the real world. But staying with some one for the kids sake, isn't always the best either... Staying because you love each other isn't always the best either.

So, I guess all I am saying is, you need to do whats right for your peace of mind. If you can not have peace of mind more often than not, then you need to let sleeping dogs lie and move on. Being alone can be hard, but hobbies, social activities, volunteering... can sure make going home to a peaceful house nice. I LOVED living alone. I had social engagements that I kept, went to the gym, work, dinner/lunch with friends. Occassional buiscuts and gravy... Even after having Jace, we lived alone until my dad became ill and needed me there. But I loved that the place was mine. I could have what I wanted, do what I wanted, when I wanted, and be alone, or with someone when I wanted. I looked forward to going home, it was my sanctuary, even when I was alone. I had my birds (KEETS), cats, and 2 dogs...

 

[RBahmer]

The pretty weather is over... BUT WAIT! I am in Michigan, it'll be back...

Fuzzy, If you have to move, and you find that you need to take your birds somewhere else, you need to know you can bring them here until you are settled and you can take them where you are. I want you to know that.

Relationships are like a good suit that is a good fit when you buy it. A good suit will have clean lines that are timeless. Yes there is always the possibility of alteration in the future, rents that need mending... A good suit you do not give up on unless it no longer fits, mending is an option that is difficult and leaves the suit in ill repair, barely serviceable... Sometimes, no matter if you love it, you just got to let it go.

My marriage to my ex was like that. We got together senior year in highschool. May 1992. Married July 1994, Divorced July 2005 just days before our 11th anniversary. We were smart enough to call it quits and stop trying to make it work. We were miserable more than we were happy. I wanted to go one way, I am more earthy. He was another, more visual, needs to prove his success. He has a big pretty house in a neighborhood of manicured lawns. He has a brand new jeep, that big one... commander I think it is... and has debt up to his eyeballs in order to keep up with the joneses and no kids. Me, I have a small house that fits my income. I have a set of boys who make me laugh and mad and proud and frustrated. I have my chickens, and I grow a bit of food. I have a job that just pays the bills. I have a car that isn't the best, but keeps me going to work. On occassion, I have biscuits and gravy... and I am not talking for breakfast. BUT we are still friends after everything. Not a lot of couples can say that. We didn't wait till our relationship became hell. We didn't have kids that we were trying to hold it together for. Even now, with John, we are smart enough to know that yes, we care about each other, but we know that we are not GOOD TOGETHER. Even now, his living here, drives us both nuts, but he was going to be homeless, and I wasn't going to ever have my boys say I let their dad live in the homeless shelter when he was down and out. He has his own space here. BUT we have kids together... If we were TOGETHER our kids would see the wrong way a relationship would be. They wouldn't see a loving relationship where we are both on the same page and stand together. A marriage can be a constant war with bouts of cease fire, or a constant one with bouts of disagreement. I'd rather have the second. I also will never have a boyfriend as long as my boys are minors.

Some people can blend families together and live happily ever after, persay... I am not willing to risk that. Both my sisters chose men over their kids. EVEN AFTER THE KIDS SAID NO! My older sisters kids have nothing really to do with her. The younger sister had her daughter living with me for a year while they came to terms. Its been two and a half years since her hubby died, and she's been with this new guy for two. Her daughter is only just starting to get along with her new boyfriend, because of a conversation I had with her. Learn to get along while she's there, until she is old enough to move out on her own, and learns to take care of herself, her house, job,bills, and car, or goes OFF to college. She's now learning the art of manipulation... Yup. A classic woman in the making.

I have several friends who've jumped into new relations constantly with their kids trailing behind, and now complain that their kids go through BF/GF like water... Or are in violent relationships just like what their parents had... Or complain all the time how the step parent doesn't treat their kids the same... I do not want that. My kids come first. Their dad may not be perfect, hell I am not perfect. But I am not going to risk subjecting them to one that is worse, jumping in and out of relationships looking for Mr. Right, cuz they, the kids, only get hurt more. God Bless those blended families that work. Cuz it surely aint a Brady Bunch Special for most of the real world. But staying with some one for the kids sake, isn't always the best either... Staying because you love each other isn't always the best either.

So, I guess all I am saying is, you need to do whats right for your peace of mind. If you can not have peace of mind more often than not, then you need to let sleeping dogs lie and move on. Being alone can be hard, but hobbies, social activities, volunteering... can sure make going home to a peaceful house nice. I LOVED living alone. I had social engagements that I kept, went to the gym, work, dinner/lunch with friends. Occassional buiscuts and gravy... Even after having Jace, we lived alone until my dad became ill and needed me there. But I loved that the place was mine. I could have what I wanted, do what I wanted, when I wanted, and be alone, or with someone when I wanted. I looked forward to going home, it was my sanctuary, even when I was alone. I had my birds (KEETS), cats, and 2 dogs...

Very well said Nova. Couldn't have said it any better myself.

 

[NovaAman]

It is snowing... Yesterday was a nice-ish day... Today, it is snowing...

 

[NovaAman]

How are you Robin? Hope you had a nice Thanksgiving. We had John's mom and brother here, and it was a nice dinner. We had way more pie than we needed. Pumpkin, sweet potato, banana cream, pecan, and mouse cheese cake... SO, we are in pie for a while. I am thinking of wrapping the sweet papa pie and freezing it... It'll freeze right?

The 2# turkey breast was very yummy. Ham was ham. LOL. I made to much mashed potato... I put sour cream, chive and onion cream cheese, butter, milk and egg in it, and some garlic and pepper... BEST ones I ever made. Now, though, I am going to have to oil the skillet and make tater cakes out of the left overs.

 

[fuzzybutt love]

I do think we are at the point that we could live seperate and still be friends, perhaps more. But i think if i stay that it will get beyond that. We both love each other, neither wants another. We have lived seperate for extended periods, i have no fear of him cheating on me. It's just our living habits and spending habits are soooo different!
It's not like i'm being forced to clean, he would be happy if i left it and didn't say anything. Unfortunately, at 6 am when you are trying to roll a pie crust you do not want to clean week old food stuck off counters, kick trash aside to open cupboards.......... That's not me. I lost my cool, not good.

I have seen families that "held together for the kids" and i have to agree that sometimes it is better if they don't . We don't have any, so at least they don't have to see us in our not-so-fine moments