Getting tired of rudeness....

[Akachicklil]

I can understand what your saying. I’ve seen some not-so-nice posts recently and it’s not really what BYC is about

Say that to them rude commenters.

 

[Akachicklil]

Thank u but no theres no explanation for rudeness

Amen sister.

 

[U_Stormcrow]

Rudeness is subjective. Few are those who know the mind of some anonymous Other so clearly as to discern intent from an initial response.

Much of what is percieved as rudeness on the internet, whether here on BYC or elsewhere, is either a failure to communicate clearly, or the perception of rudeness when one's assumptions are challenged. The response to that perception is often rude - humans can get very defensive when others suggest they are wrong - but the initial response is often not rude, it generally lacks the necessary intent, and simply originates from a place of differing experience and/or assumptions.

That said, I will readily volunteer that I have, on occasion, been deliberately rude - not with the intent of intent of insulting the poster to whom I respond (about whom I rarely give a damn), though that is an acceptable consequence, but rather to shock the conscience of those reading as an alert to a vast difference in opinion regarding the topic at hand.

If I've done it successfully, my intent is clear.

 

[WILIFORD]

This is my opinion, I generally find that rude people, lead miserable and unhappy lives, and they want others around them to be miserable and unhappy as well. So when I encounter rudeness, I just reflect on how I am blessed with a pretty good life, pity them for a moment, and move on. Don't let someone else's behavior determine your behavior!

 

[Akachicklil]

This is my opinion, I generally find that rude people, lead miserable and unhappy lives, and they want others around them to be miserable and unhappy as well. So when I encounter rudeness, I just reflect on how I am blessed with a pretty good life, pity them for a moment, and move on. Don't let someone else's behavior determine your behavior!

On point. That is correct. You just about summed it up. We can close the loop after this for sure. This is exactly it.

 

[Bigtom Turkey]

I am rather snarky, it is simply because I don't really care about offending the other person. This is a CHICKEN website not a "everybody is mean to me" site. I love BYC and the fact that people can talk about other things on it, but the fact of the matter is It is about chickens not feelings. But then I am not a emotional guy...

 

[U_Stormcrow]

I am rather snarky, it is simply because I don't really care about offending the other person. This is a CHICKEN website not a "everybody is mean to me" site. I love BYC and the fact that people can talk about other things on it, but the fact of the matter is It is about chickens not feelings. But then I am not a emotional guy...

<<< Also not wired for emotional response. Helpful when butchering an animal that's lived with you months or years. Takes all kinds in a society.

That said, as a courtesy to others on BYC, I try to reserve my rudeness for the point at which a poster

A) veers from profoundly ignorant (perfectly ok, we've all been there on multiple subjects at various times in our lives) to dangerously stupid
**AND**
B) opines on a topic others who may be learning about chicken keeping are likely to read
**AND**
C) do so in a way which might appear superficially convincing.

But that's simply a selfish effort on my part to avoid wasting my limited time - if there's limited chance of offering benefit, I (usually) have more entertaining (or at least needed) demands on my schedule.

 

[WILIFORD]

I am rather snarky, it is simply because I don't really care about offending the other person. This is a CHICKEN website not a "everybody is mean to me" site. I love BYC and the fact that people can talk about other things on it, but the fact of the matter is It is about chickens not feelings. But then I am not a emotional guy...

I respectively disagree. I think we all need to be concerned with weather we are offending someone. There is almost always a way to communicate our point without being rude, or offensive. Some times we may have to put a little more thought in how we choose our words to make our point. It's not what we say, but how we say it. And trust me, I'm not a sensitive cuddly guy, in fact most consider me to be a hardnose.

 

[sandburRanch]

Some times we may have to put a little more thought in how we choose our words to make our point. It's not what we, but how we say it.

Exactly !!

A lack of vocabulary to express themselves any other way than rude .

 

[allenw]

I often have to think and carefully word my responses before posting. Even more often
I don't respond and often don't even finish reading some posts. I like to read about how people do things and help with problems when I can but my viewpoint is my birds work for me and if they don't they are culled so I stay away from some things here.