Gift for the Impossible to buy for...........................

[love-my-wolves]

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Sadly, yes. I think they knew we were going to fight for custody, and that's why they moved her to FL, where they have the system on their side (CPS in FL always backs the parents). We have a lawyer, but it's hard to get all the evidence when we live so far away. Just hearsay is good, but not great. Also, they seem to have some way of knowing when we talk to our lawyer, cuz they straighten up for a while and the evidence goes away.

I just really want her to know her Aunt and Uncle love her, and right now I feel like they are trying to keep us from giving her anything that she will eventually equate with us. I guess that's why I was so set on this Innotab, it's a way for her to "see" us, and remember who we are.

 

[love-my-wolves]

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I think thats a great idea! My younger cousin is mentally handicapped and he absolutely loves watching DVDs. His mom got him a tv for his room and he sits there and watches them over and over again and he eventually can recite them by memory. I think it would really get your point across, about how much you love this kid, if you did that. Thumbs up for the idea

Both of these are great ideas!!!!!! I think maybe a personal DVD player, and a homemade DVD. This way, she can use it every day if they let her. Thanks!!!!!!!

 

[SourRoses]

Ohh... another leap to a hypothesis for me... it's probably a silly leap... but just to make sure you know...

My brother, when his first unplanned and unwanted child came along, a child who has had his own development issues due to what he was exposed to in the womb.... well brother and mother-of-child were heavy into the use of a specific recreational intoxicant. It starts with "E".
On more than one occasion, brother would be forced to admit to me why he was not touching his child during the visits... apparently it's well known in that crowd that when on, or having recently used, that specific intoxicant... it "leaks" through the skin and can be absorbed through the skin by another. So no touching babies, pets, ect.

Makes me wonder if that, or something similar, is why they don't handle her? Why she's ill?

 

[love-my-wolves]

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Could very well be. But I do know that she also doesn't like babies, doesn't want to feed/change/play with them. She REALLY hates being pregnant. I remember she called the kids bad words when they kicked in her belly. (Oh, how I wish I could experience that feeling again!) Why she is having them is because my brother wants 7. And they like the "sport" involved. No reason to bring children into this world at all! I do know on several occasions I've heard that they "smoke" outside the home, and I know that is carried in to the kids on their clothes. But it's so hard to prove, it's my word against theirs. And my brother gets drug tested at work, passes them all because he pays someone to give him their urine (ew and wrong!). I think a PI may be in the works!!! Possibly his previous OD might help my case, and if I could just convince a judge to do a hair folicle.

I think my biggest worry is that they will have to do paternity, and the kids will turn out not to be his. That is my biggest fear. It's not that I question my neice, but my nephew, well, he looks just like their old neighbors son. If they aren't my brother's kids, my claim goes right out the window.

 

[debilorrah]

Love - you have alot more going on with you than what to buy those kids. I am sensing that you disagree with parents, and that you feel the parents are not providing a good home for these kids. I feel there is more to your post. I could be wrong.....

 

[love-my-wolves]

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No, you are quite correct. Sorry, I didn't mean to turn the topic so much, I guess I just get so emotional about it all. I love those kids so much, it killed my husband and I when they moved, and what's worse is it was almost exactly a year ago. They told us on Dec 17 that they were moving on Dec 19.

Thanks for letting me vent, and I'll start another thread when I hire the PI. I might need some major emotional support then.

 

[debilorrah]

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No, you are quite correct. Sorry, I didn't mean to turn the topic so much, I guess I just get so emotional about it all. I love those kids so much, it killed my husband and I when they moved, and what's worse is it was almost exactly a year ago. They told us on Dec 17 that they were moving on Dec 19.

Thanks for letting me vent, and I'll start another thread when I hire the PI. I might need some major emotional support then.

You have to know that many people here care, and there is no harm in telling the REAL reason for your post.

 

[SourRoses]

Could you not call social services on suspicion that the child/ren have been contaminated from substances? I don't know if you can or not.
Maybe the hospitals... or the pediatrician... could do a test on the kids?


My brother ended up with 3 boys, all different mothers, none of them planned... and kept making excuses about it. I (as his little sister) told him... "The first time is an accident... the second time was pretty stupid... the third time? That's just idiotic" ... Point being he didn't want any of his kids to start with. Not any of the mothers were in the emotional/financial state to be having kids either. It really makes me sad to see how they are raised. But since my brother had his children on part-time custody, and the mothers families were involved... there is nothing really we could do legally about it.

The second boy... he'd be about 3 1/2 now. The mother left my brother when the baby was 6 months, and took him out of state to Texas to live with her parents. The mother eventually got arrested for child neglect (?? We knew nothing of what was happening or what happened there, no news) and the child was placed with the maternal grandparents. Now, all we could do was push and push my brother to go the court hearing and get his kid... but at the last minute he bailed and we (the paternal grandparent and aunt- me) would have been denied since we were not Texas residents. *sigh* so I know how you feel.

If your neice is your brothers, but turns out your nephew isen't... wouldn't they place them together anyway? I would hope... and I would give it a shot if I could anyway. I'd say you have a little more ground there being someone who had a hand in the raising..? If we had been able at the time, we would have done the PI thing ourselves... there are so many ways someone into that kind of stuff can get caught... someone tailing them could be taking some pictures... checking the trash, ect. Maybe not evidence in court, but pretty sure it can get a testing order from a judge?

 

[justbugged]

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This is a great idea! But I worry about her, she has some severe health issues. She gets migraines (she has a flat head from lying down constantly as a baby) and is in the hospital at least once a month for vomiting/lethargy/dehydration and the parents don't get her medical treatment for it. Sadly, medicaid isn't stepping in either, when she's admitted to the ER, they run basic tests, but when she's seen by a regular DR, they refuse to run more in-depth tests because she shows no symptoms. They diagnosed her with having a stomach bug and migraines. (Every month for the past year????)

Basically, I'm worried about her mental state as an adult, will she be mentally able to use a Bond? I really don't know much about them, could you fill me in? Thanks!

I suspect that she is getting some type of food poisoning every month. All that would need to happen is have a bottle sit out to long in fairly warm temperatures and the kid will be vomiting. Have you reported this to CPS in Florida? I would report it every single time you here about her going to the hospital, or when you are told that she is being neglected. She needs you in her corner for sure. I would go with a picture of you and your family, and not bother with stuff for now.

 

[justbugged]

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I can not tell you how many times I have said this statement over the years. You are a very wise child. It is always better to make a new and different mistake each time.