Well, we sat down and did finances. That included finding out exactly how much it cost for the BF to go to work and how much it cost for me to drop the boys off at their dad's place and pick them back up. Well, it turns out that it costs me $40 each weekend that the boys go to their dad's house. Now, the ex husband is asking me if he can claim one of the boys for tax returns!!! He doesn't pay any child support, he doesn't help me with gas money for the trips I make, he doesn't help with doctor's visits or the gas for them (another $20 per visit), etc. He also has absolutely no bills, as he lives with his mother. So, I'm wondering, WTH does he need money for?! I mean, yes, I understand that it's nice to be able to go out and do things and spend money, but, you know what, GET A JOB! He's obviously getting a little bit of money here and there though, as I am still getting emails from his xbox account, saying, "Thanks for upgrading this" or "Thanks for buying that". So, if he's so desperate for money, why not cut the x-box bullcrap and use the money for something that he NEEDS, like transportation to find a job. Also, not to mention, when he moved out, he came back to the apartment when I was not home (broke in even) and took ALL of our electronics, thousands of dollars worth of DVD's, CD's, xbox 360 games and the console, regular xbox games and the console, etc. I let it go, because I (was being stupid) just wanted him OUT of my life (as much as possible, considering that we have kids together). Now, with the divorce, we also had to go to a parenting class BY LAW. He was whining to me that he couldn't get the $50 for the entrance fee. I highlighted the number on his brochure that would pay his fee. He still hasn't gone, and has received a court date in the mail for contempt of court. I told him that he had better call that number and take a class before hand, so that he doesn't get a fine. He puts his wrists out and says "I'll just tell them to take me away". Now, while this would be freaking excellent for me, it's definately not what my boys need. They need this butthead (no, I don't say nasty things like that in front of them, it's a rule) in their lives. Why can't this man grow some beans, get off his butt and DO something?!