grannys gone and done it

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Of all of our married friends we're the only ones who are still together and haven't had extreme counseling because of serious issues. I'm not bragging. I'm heartbroken.


There have been two cases where DH acted quickly to stop us from having issues. One: when I stayed in bed four days DH called my doc and dragged me in that day so I could get meds, get help, and get better. Two: we went on a two-night marriage counseling retreat. Our pastor recommended it and the church paid. We gained so much insight into how to better communicate our feelings and expectations. I hated him, at that point, and it was mostly the depression talking. Luckily I hadn't acted on it in any way.



secrets to marriage ? you have to want it.  you have to forgive easily. there are a ton.  its not always about love, sex.  I dont see you ever being divorced .


We're in it to win it! :lau DH read a long time ago that couples are most unhappy when their kids are small. We're almost over that hump and to the place where things like traveling get easier because the kids are older.
 
Just want to say that I support ending bad relationships and marriages. I'm not anti-divorce. I believe everyone has a right to be happy. This couple just always seemed to have it more together than any of us. Always in step and on the same page. We are particularly close to them, so that's why it's more rattling to me.



And comes the age old question, which one will stay your friend.. :(   Do they go to the same church as you ? Is it too late for them to go where you went ?


They live a few hours away. I'm trying to be friends with both. We offered to pay for the retreat and found the dates and location, but like Linda said, one had already decided it was over and didn't want to work.
 
Linda, I have been wanting to ask for a while and I have been reading your thread but not getting far . Did you marry ?
 
They live a few hours away. I'm trying to be friends with both. We offered to pay for the retreat and found the dates and location, but like Linda said, one had already decided it was over and didn't want to work.

Then you have done what you could and way more then most. I knew first yr. into my first marrige it wouldnt last but I also needed to learn how to live on my own as I was scared. and I did. the day he came home from his over the road driving job with hickeys on his neck and telling me he had a woman pregnant is the day I decided it was time. I waited til he went back over the road sold everything that belonged to me and my boss bought me and my DD train tickets.
 
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