Great DH, bad dogs! another update page 11

[Wifezilla]

Anyone who needs their feelings coddled that much needs to grow the heck up!

Putting a geriatric dog outside when it has no desire to go outside is just cruel.

A man who pouts isn't a man. He is a whiny little boy.

 

[Califowlday]

Any man who kicks in doors or animals and gets angry over little things is not worth having around. You have to put yourself first. You may be the only one who does. Anyone who kicks animals has a higher chance of being an abuser to his kids, wife..etc. NO ONE HAS THE RIGHT TO HURT ANYONE!!!

 

[Chicks_N_Horses]

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I know, even people who keep their homes super clean with pets inside...when I can go in there and smell the 'pet odor' everytime. My DH would have a holy cow if I brought an animal inside our home and he would most likey kick it like a football out the front door...and he has done that before...
A man that has issues like this doesn't always mean he is a control freak.....My dh has lots of issues with animals and me but in no way is my DH controlling. Your husband has concerns and feelings too and they should be respected as yours should be. That is why you should both have lots of communications and then MORE communications on finding a solution. Anyone telling you to kick him to the curb is not giving you good advice IMO and not trying to actually HELP your situation. He has issues so try and help him deal with it. Don't be demanding or have the 'show you the door' attitude with him...that is not the way to solve a problem in a marriage. Maybe that is why the divorce rate is so high...people aren't willing to 'give' to their partners feelings and think they are just being mean, don't love you, etc.....

The man deserves to live comfortably as you do and I don't think you should have to get rid of your dogs but putting them outside would be a big plus.

Some men deal with things differntly than others. Find a way to help him through this and find a way to get him to compramise with you. I know it seems you are having the short end of the stick here but if you value your marriage at all you will go above and beyond what is required to keep a happy marriage.

..and I am not saying find a way to make JUST him happy...you have to find a way to keep you BOTH happy =-)

...and I bet putting those dogs OUTSIDE will help tremendously!!!!! And yes you can put them outside. I have a tiny dog that lives outside. You could fix them up a run, a house, and a nice cozy spot outside...and still bring them in to love on but let them live outside.

Ouchie! He kicked an animal like a football?..

That upsets me very much. Sorry.

Is he always that violent when something happens he dosent like? Please be careful...

No, he is one of the sweetest men I know. Very loving sweet man but when he has had enough, he has had enough. He asked me not to bring the animal inside several times. I kept doing it, then he told me not to ever bring her back in the house. I did again, so he opens the door and kicked her out with his foot. It was in no violent act like you are assuming....he didn't kick her as hard as he could've. He made his point and I then realized he was very upset about me keeping on bringing the animal in....never did it again either.

 

[Chicks_N_Horses]

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Boy, if our roosters could talk

 

[texasgirl]

Thank goodness, he didn't kick her as hard as he could have so that's ok.

 

[redhen]

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I agree..and its VERY true also! Very true! Some people wont admit whats REALLY going on ...and thats scary and makes me sad for them.

 

[LegHorn-BusHorn]

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The dog would be just fine. It most likely would be happier outside. It could have a nice fenced in 'housy' spot made for it....VERY well worth it if she values her husbands feelings!!!

What about HER feelings? Why are his feelings more imporatnt? Dont you see..cant you see?...

I agree redhen, it is mainly the problem with the 17 year old. But I cannot and will not put a dog that is in relatively good health to sleep. I do value his feelings just not to a point of keeping indoor dogs outside. Big dogs are fine outdoors but mine are used to staying in and I don't like the flea problem too.

 

[agnes_day]

i cant imagine living with a man who basically says "if you keep disobeying me, i will hurt your defenseless animal."

you said he did it like a football! thats not gentle at all

 

[Califowlday]

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I know, even people who keep their homes super clean with pets inside...when I can go in there and smell the 'pet odor' everytime. My DH would have a holy cow if I brought an animal inside our home and he would most likey kick it like a football out the front door...and he has done that before...

A man that has issues like this doesn't always mean he is a control freak.....My dh has lots of issues with animals and me but in no way is my DH controlling. Your husband has concerns and feelings too and they should be respected as yours should be. That is why you should both have lots of communications and then MORE communications on finding a solution. Anyone telling you to kick him to the curb is not giving you good advice IMO and not trying to actually HELP your situation. He has issues so try and help him deal with it. Don't be demanding or have the 'show you the door' attitude with him...that is not the way to solve a problem in a marriage. Maybe that is why the divorce rate is so high...people aren't willing to 'give' to their partners feelings and think they are just being mean, don't love you, etc.....

The man deserves to live comfortably as you do and I don't think you should have to get rid of your dogs but putting them outside would be a big plus.

Some men deal with things differntly than others. Find a way to help him through this and find a way to get him to compramise with you. I know it seems you are having the short end of the stick here but if you value your marriage at all you will go above and beyond what is required to keep a happy marriage.

..and I am not saying find a way to make JUST him happy...you have to find a way to keep you BOTH happy =-)

...and I bet putting those dogs OUTSIDE will help tremendously!!!!! And yes you can put them outside. I have a tiny dog that lives outside. You could fix them up a run, a house, and a nice cozy spot outside...and still bring them in to love on but let them live outside.

Obviously he is controlling you with fear and violence. If you are scared he would kick your dog. He is very violent sounding AND controlling.

 

[redhen]

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Ouchie! He kicked an animal like a football?..

That upsets me very much. Sorry.

Is he always that violent when something happens he dosent like? Please be careful...

No, he is one of the sweetest men I know. Very loving sweet man but when he has had enough, he has had enough. He asked me not to bring the animal inside several times. I kept doing it, then he told me not to ever bring her back in the house. I did again, so he opens the door and kicked her out with his foot. It was in no violent act like you are assuming....he didn't kick her as hard as he could've. He made his point and I then realized he was very upset about me keeping on bringing the animal in....never did it again either.

Honey, i KNOW you NEVER want to believe me..but please think about this..please! Would a truly sweet man take out his anger with you on an innocent animal? No..and you know it..you just cant admit it for some reason... And thats okay too.

I'm just not going to get into this with you...You honestly seem like a very nice person..and i know we'll just disagree about all of this...its your choice to live how you like. And i'll respect that choice..and not say another word about it. AND you have my best wishes in everything ..