Gutless worm....

[shelleyd2008]

I've been talking to my oldest son now for a few days, after not seeing him or anything for about 8 years (see this thread for details). He wants me to call him, I know he does. I want to call him, but I'm scared. Just talking to him on facebook makes me cry.... I've got the green light from his adoptive parents to call or write...heck, they might even let him come visit me. So what is my problem?? Why am I so gutless? Does anyone have any guts I can borrow?

 

[Boyd]

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You can have some of mine. It's the only thing I have left to loan out

We both know dialing that phone number and saying Hi is ..... there is going to be the worst. Trust me Shelly, you can do it girly!!!!

 

[key west chick]

You CAN do it! I know the first step is so hard. I had to contact my DD's bio dad last year after nearly 20 years of no contact. That first step was terrifying.

 

[turney31]

I had a father who had to make that same phone call, it meant the world to me! You can do it, I'll be praying for you.

Micah

 

[easttxchick]

Do it, Shelley, despite how nervous you are now, it will be worth it for you(and for him).

 

[gritsar]

My son was stolen from me by his non-custodial father when he was 4 years old. He's now 27. I have talked to him a bit on myspace, once or twice on the phone, but can't really get it together. It's just hard to get to know someone you've loved their whole life, but haven't known.
It's great that you know where your son is and can communicate with him, but I know it's hard at the same time. I don't feel like you are a gutless worm at all. Many

 

[Sillystunt]

life is to short! You have the adoptive parents blessings and this seems to be a good thing!!! What ever happened is in the PAST, don't let it affect your FUTURE!! CALL HIM..............

knowing your roots and who you came from is the most important thing! Time heals all wounds and he has reached out to you!

 

[scbatz33]

Shelly,
My husband found his bio mom through an online service and was unable to call her. He had a lot of misinformation given to him over the years from his father and step mom. I made the call. I talked to her and she told me how seeing the name on caller id stopped her cold and she almost didn't answer. She was afraid to talk to him as he was to her.

That was 2005. They speak occasionally on the phone - mostly emails. They are working on building a relationship. It will never be what they should have had if he had been allowed to grow up with her, but it's good. Neither would be willing to give it up or trade it in.

It's not an easy thing to do. But I guarantee he's as apprehensive and nervous as you are. But you'll never know what kind of relationship you can have if you never take that step. YOU CAN DO THIS!!!

 

[cafe]

Saying a pray for you for courage and peace.

 

[redhen]

I would call him Shelly..
if he wants you to call him.. then its time to do it.
Just take things slow... so you both dont get overwhelmed with everything.
Good luck! You can do it..