Gutless worm....

[sourland]

It's a big move, and you are anything but gutless. 13 years ago you made an absolutely courageous move to assure a good life for your son. Do it in small steps: write him, call him, and when the time is right somewhere in the future (no time limit on this) see him. Good luck in this journey. I regard you as courageous. You have already shown that you are the kind of person who does "the Right Thing." I salute you.

 

[Camelot Farms]

C'mon Shelley. Yank up those big girl panties and be the STRONG woman that you know that you are. Someone has to take the 1st step...dont make it be him. Show him that you want to be a part of his life. That 'part' can be defined later. For now, the call is enough.

(((hugs))) and <<<prayers>>>

 

[teach1rusl]

I didn't meet my bio. father until I was 40. We're not close, but we do maintain email contact, and I do go see him about once a year. I think we would be much closer had he tried to contact me when I was younger, but instead I grew up (meaning my teens and 20s) assuming he had no interest in ever knowing me. It would have made a world of difference to me had I suspected he cared. Whatever happens, I believe it will make a world of difference to your son just knowing that you have an interest in knowing about him and his life. Good luck!

 

[CoopCrazy]

Shelly ..You CAN do this... I know in your heart that you want to know him .. Take a deep breath, and dial that number... I will be sending energy your way for strentgh and the courage to do what you know you can.... Many blessings

 

[Sunny the Hippie Chick]

I met my dad when I was a teen. That was almost 15 years. Glad we made contact for a few years. Because he passed away 4-5 years ago.. Life is short, contact him now...

 

[burquechick]

You got to do it! But maybe it will help if you think of a few things you want to say first....? It might give you more courage.

 

[Ehigh57]

Consider this Shelly.....life has a way of making things final. You are not guaranteed tomorrow.

 

[shelleyd2008]

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I think this is part of my problem...I don't know what to say. What do you say to your son that you haven't seen in 8 years? The son that thinks you gave him up because you didn't want him (he told me yesterday)?? I just don't know...

 

[sfw2]

Shelley, just tell him what's in your heart.

Sending "courage" vibes from Virginia!

 

[Buff Hooligans]

Consider the worst possible outcome. Decide whether you can live through that. Then act from there. Blessings on you.