Have to get rid of our chickens after one got killed.

[Buff Hooligans]

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Well, my husband usually rules our roost, but I have to say, I'd take a stern stand on this topic.

 

[HeatherLynn]

I agree that you guys could build a coop in the backyard without the hubbies help and if his plate is very full thats what you should do or do it as a family project. My husband loves building stuff with the kids. I would not deal well with the smell in the garage myself personally. I do keep my babies inside the house and have to clean up a couple times a day but as soon as they are big enough they go in the coop in a brooder pen with a light. Stinky little sweethearts. I did alot of the building on our last 2 coops. The hubby even has me working with the air nailer now( so much better than a hammer)

Anywho, on the relationship stuff thats between the two of you. We don't know how or what put his foot down means in your home. In my house my husband has only been allowed to put his foot down twice. I could have bucked and done my own thing and he would have accepted it but he was SO against it that I went ahead and agreed to be considerate. That can be putting his foot down too. I put my foot down all the time and he just laughs and does his own thing unless its really important to me. So thats what I call putting our foot down. He has only done it twice in 12 years so i guess I can handle that rate. The ladies on this site are some very strong women though and the post did bring it into the conversation. I just like to think every time I read their posts that some of that strength and hardheadedness rubs off on me.

 

[caralynnp]

after reading all of the posts on the thread I felt like I had to add my two cents. My husband and I didn't see eye to eye on the chickens either. I wanted them so bad and we had a very rare fight where he actually made me cry over the whole thing. So the next morning I got up and got on craigslist and got myself some chickens. In he beginning it was a source of some tension between us and we did lose two to predators. I was really torn up over the lost chickens and seeing me so upset made my husband upset but it also made him realize how much they meant to me. over the last few months now that the chickens are in a secure coop we have all been able to enjoy them and i NEVER ask my husband to do chicken chores. My husband isn't a bad guy and I am sure yours isn't either but he does know how to "put his foot down" and I know how to choose my battles. the chickens were one I was willing to fight and if you want to keep the chickens figuring out how to keep them safe and keep their space clean on your own will go a long way. If not I am sorry that you will lose them, you are not alone in having a spouse that doesn't enjoy chooks. If it came down to it I would pick my hubby too. I love my chooks but I love my hubby better, even though he can be a donkey sometimes. Best of luck to you in whatever you do!

 

[Rozzie]

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Ahem. That was basically going to be my response. The chickens would stay, the husband would go. I've only been married once, and that for 18 years, so it's not like I change husbands like underwear, either.

 

[Wifezilla]

Feathers7, check the area of the forum on local laws and ordinances. Some people have successfully fought their local laws banning chickens.

 

[nuchickontheblock]

Hi Houseful,
just read through these posts, and realized we hadn't heard from you in a while. Hope moving the chickens has worked out for you all. I find that I do a little "spot cleaning" of the coop every day and especially around the roost area and it really helps with the smell. I have a large bucket and a dustpan and scraper and just pick up the poo and put it in the covered bucket. it also helps if you have some ventilation in the area. I hope you are enjoying the chickens these days. My husband was the one who initially thought chickens would be "fun for the Summer" and then we'd just give them away in Sept. Now we are planning for the Winter and he's the one who is picking up most of the items we need at the feed store near his work, making changes to the coop, training them etc. Of course, I'm the one who cleans out the coop, rakes around the area and takes care of the food and water. LOL Let us know how it's going.

 

[nuttyredhead]

Im so sorry that you lost a Hen, that must have been heartbreaking. I lost one to sickness and we were so sad. Im glad that you and your hubby are coming to a compromise.


Feathers7 -- Im sad to hear that you might lose your chickens, i hope you can find some way around it.

 

[Ariel301]

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I've noticed that too...when things are getting stressful and my husband is in a bad mood and we're running out of money, he goes on a tirade about how he wants to get rid of my goats. They cost a lot of money, take up too much of my time, etc, etc, etc....surely I'd be less stressed out if he sold my goats.

Then I remind him of the hundreds of dollars he's spent on computers, and that I don't have a car to upkeep like he does--I bicycle everywhere, and everything still gets done even if it's slow, and it is the housework that stresses me, not the farm. I buy feed out of my own spending money and shop for clothes at Goodwill to save money. And then he gives in, and I keep the goats. When he's in a good mood, he loves the goats to death and spoils them rotten, he brings the newborns into the house to snuggle with in front of the TV. It's funny, he wanted to get them in the first place, but now when they cost money he didn't plan for, they're "YOUR stupid goats." When I handed him an $80 prize check from the show they just went to, he went out and fed them all treats!

I can understand how stressed your husband is with the loss of income and hard work. Mine is in the same place, he's gone 12 hours a day four days a week between classes and work, and then busy Friday and Saturday with our religious group, and Sunday he's got to do homework, and then in his mind I'm playing around with my animals all day not doing anything useful, even though he doesn't think about all the work I do sometimes. It can be hard on people living like that!

 

[chickenlover205]

That isnt fair that your husband gets to decide if you keep them or not. i have had chickens die and my husband dosent tell me to get rid of them. sorry about your chicken i personally love that breed.

thats just not fair

 

[sunflowerenvy]

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iam sorry for your loss but it sound like my nieghbor too . we have to get rid of our chickens when their pet pig went after me on my own FUC????????? land when i call the police about it. but that was in florida