Have to get rid of our chickens after one got killed.

[Wifezilla]

I do think it is unreasonable with him working all those hours to be caring for the chickens. That should be on you and the daughters. Between the 5 of you, you can work out a schedule. As for building a coop, it doesn't have to be a super engineered palace. I think it is a project you and the girls can handle. Look up "playhouse coop".

As for a torn or slashed throat and scared chickens, it could easily be a hawk. A run covered with deer netting solves that.

As for us commenting on your relationship...well yeah! You posted on here for comments. Looking at it from your description, it sounds like there is a problem because a lot of us would not be dictated to by our husbands. Well, not if they didn't want to sleep in a tent in the back yard for a couple of days until their attitude changed!

 

[gallinamama]

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I can understand her ...My "H" would say the same.. I think she should take them out of the garage and into a coop out in the backyard. This way he won't have to smell them. Some men try and control their family with power. Sometimes you have to find a alternative situation and put your foot down. That is what I have done.

I feel bad for her and the children... but if the children love the chickens and are willing to help her... she has to fight for the children's best intrest.
who slit the chickens throat?????? Hmmmmmm???

 

[BlueRoseMama]

I think that owning animals is a family affair and it is a decision that shouldn't be made lightly.

That said, it sounds like he has a TON on his plate right now and it should not be put on him to build the coop, or at least plan, buy for, build it all himself. If you want it done, and want them outside, then it would be a great idea for you to at least have the materials bought, and cut for him, so that all he has to do is nail it together. Does that make sense? I am glad you found a solution that will work for you. If it is a temporary solution, then I would make sure to have him have as minimal of the chicken chores as possible until he sees the value in owning them. It takes a while. But I am guessing that by the time you are getting 20 eggs a week from your babies, he will come around. Esp if he likes eggs.

My dh doesn't like the chickens. He doesn't understand owning them and he doesn't like eggs. Granted, this could have stopped me, as I love him, want to respect his views, etc. But it didn't because I think that owning animals is a HUGE part of being a kid and my 3 (soon to be 4) children adore the chickens (and rabbits, and cats... all of which he was opposed to in the beginning). And so do I. I won't lie... I love them to pieces. This new flock is even more precious than my last flock to me. I have made it very clear that he doesn't have to do more than assist with chicken chores (and never has to clean poop, or anything like that) because of his views. But with my teen and my 9 yr old, we manage nicely and the kids don't mind taking most of the chores at all (like I said... we love our little flock of 6).

I am making a small coop to go over my garden beds (which are raised 6X4ft beds) that they will be in during the day in the yard or in the garden, and then at night they have a hutch they go into in a small run behind the shed. It is a good chicken life. And my dh only had to pound in posts I bought.

 

[they'reHISchickens]

Your hubby thinks he has problems? I've told my honey that when I retire, I'm getting a cow! Watch me

 

[redhen]

Any man that feels like he has it rough/bad with his wife, should come live with ME...

** i'm thinking that i could charge wives... kinda like a Nazi camp for your mouthy man?...**
.. .... I may never have to work again!!!...

 

[mmaddie's mom]

I TOTALLY understand! My husband of 35 years doesn't love my chickens... but he loves me and knows I enjoy them... and because I love him, I have pared my flock down to under 20 and will keep it that way (I had upwards to 65 at one time). They ARE messy and smelly, but they bring me much pleasure.... I can just feel my blood pressure falling as I sit and watch them. It's all about respect. And definately in the garage is NOT a good place to keep them unless they are just new babies... learned this from experience myself!

Also because I don't "expect " him to help me with them, he is willing when he sees that I need help.
The move was a good thing and having the kids keep on top of stuff so Hubby doesn't have to were very good things. Hope this works out for your family and hopefully your husband will get finished with his extra "job" and things will calm down. Sounds like he is a hard worker and a keeper... just a tired keeper.

 

[sonew123]

Im so sorry for your situation-you'll have to excuse alot of us hard headed women I myself would never let DH put the "foot" down. In fact he had put his foot down many times throughout this past year with the chickens-I hatched out a ton and kept them in the house...my bad. wont do it that long again. but Who is the one after I leave for work before anyone is out of bed...DH... who talks to his favorite roo's...DH...who tells me hes misses baby chick sounds and hints to hatch out more? DH....he picks me up bedding -food-feeders-waterers etc...I listen to his gripes and sometimes I give a tad like I have gone from 100+ chickens to 50+ right now. but just had 26 meaties arrive this am and not a word was said---hahaha It wasnt until he realized how big the chickenstock in Oct at our house was going to be that he REALLY knew Im an addict! maybe your Dh just needed to vent? Keep the birds away from his stuff and you and DD's do all the work for now-then slowly creep him back in-worked for me...haha-hes hooked now

 

[Germaine_11.20]

Whew, it's alot to take in for a new person on BYC isn't it. Warning: if you post, you will get responses most of the time and people tell the way they feel.

I do understand your DH's frustration. I had my chicks and young ones in the garage all summer using it as a brooder. The smell was awful, the flies--terrible and the chicken dander dust beat out the smell and the flies for top issue.

The motorcycle was always covered in dust and everything else in there. My fault. So... no more in there.

When he tastes those fresh eggs he will give in a bit. Downsize if you need to to just three hens. You can always add more if you and the kids can work together to keep the smell and mess down.

Have a good conversation with the DH and let him know how important the chickens are to you and the kids and let him know what you are willing to do to keep them and see if he will give them another chance. If not there is always another time to bring it up and try again. Sometimes it just isn't the "right" time.

A husband is more important to keep happy than the chickens. My DH loves me and enjoys the chickens however he does have his limits and I respect that. If it causes him stress and I have to pick--I go with my heart and pick him.

 

[mmaddie's mom]

♪♫ R-E-S-P-E-C-T... ♪♫

 

[Feathers7]

After having my "girls" for 8 years the city of Miramar Florida said I have to get rid of my hens. I am so sad about this.
My neighbor wrote a letter to the code Enforcement. She got mad at me for something or other. Not sure why.

We have a neighbor who has a pit bull that runs free. Others fixes cars everyweekend and screeches down our 25 MPH street. Another neighbor plays Boom boom music on his front porch every weekend.

But my chicken have to go or I will be fined until I get rid of them. I am so hurt and sad to get rid of them after all these years.